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Well look at that map I posted sometime of floriduh. Pasco county all the way down to collier county minus Hillsborough county(county Tampa in which is really young) has pretty high average age especially Sarasota county down to Naples. Sarasota, charlotte and collier county has some of the oldest median ages in the state. Sarasota county and Charlotte tied for first. Southeast fl and Orlando a lot younger. Not fair.
 

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If you give all these badass dominant qualities to a guy who is at least at a 6/10 and put him into a social circle full of women, I guarantee you he will clean up.
He should be able to get some women, I don't know about clean up. I would think everyone on this forum would say that outcome independence is attractive. That alone isn't going to draw a bunch of women to him, it takes some other attractive traits to go along with it, some of which you talked about. Doesn't take a perfect storm, but at least some clouds gathered together to give some precipitation.

Being oblivious can be a double edged sword. I know for a fact I have missed out on several opportunities because I was oblivious. Women's signals often tend to be on the subtle side. I recall women telling me "I had a crush on you back then, but you never got the hint" lol.

Then of course there's the chicken and the egg. You talk of outcome dependence being attractive, but is it the cause of abundance or it is the result? I don't think I've ever met any guy who told me he had over 100 girls crushing on him in high school. Maybe if he was a high school quarterback, but that aside that is a crazy number IMO. It's going to be a lot easier to not care about girls if you're getting that kind of reaction. Which I guess is kind of the point, because PUAs copy naturals.
 

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When you spend your time in sosuave it’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking everything is harder now.

But there are guys out there who literally swim in infinite validation.
I've never thought things were as hard as guys claim here.
Yes, there are guys who swim in validation. I'm saying they're not swimming in validation just because they learned to stop chasing. Well, maybe some guys - it depends on their SMV, how social they are, and what their sticking points are.

Attraction compounds exponentially.
Yeah, that's why some guys can change one little thing and get drastic results, and other guys can work for five years and barely get anything. The more boxes you check, the better off you are.
 
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It’s actually more common than you think. I know guys who attract 80% of women they come in contact with.

But there are guys out there who literally swim in infinite validation.

Everytime I go out I always run into a few of them. They are usually tall and buff, handsome in the face, and have 5-6 women hovering around them.

One time I was standing outside a club and I literally saw a group of probably 10 girls swarming around some buff blonde guy. The way they ran towards him, I thought he was a celebrity or something but he was just another normal Chad.

So having 100 options is actually pretty normal for an attractive guy in a social environment like high school or college.

Also that’s the experimental age where girls don’t really vet, they just go for whatever is cute and popular.

It’s when they are in their mid 20s that they suddenly have “standards”.
Your stats are way off. They're corrected below. The error you make is that you assume 80% of women are attracted overall based upon an inordinate level of attention which actually amounts to a rather small percentage of women.

Take your "10 girls swarming" example. Sure, that's great. It's an example of "high interest." But do you suppose that there were only 12 or 13 girls in that club or bar? No, even in a medium sized venue, maybe 50 to 100 to 200 might pass through during prime time hours over the course of 1-3 hours.

10 girls showing interest out of 100 is 10% who show interest (IOI's, attraction, or whatever term you want to use), not 80%.

Let's post some stats. I'm pretty familiar with and have good success in the nightspots with the most attractive women. These are medium sized venues which get absolutely packed on weekend nights, with a solid selection of talent.

On a slow night, I might be approached by a couple of girls and maybe double digits will show clear interest. On a better night, upwards of a dozen or more will approach and maybe a couple dozen show clear interest. These numbers are astronomical compared to most guys, at the very least top 5%, probably more like top 1%. Probably a majority of guys will never be approached romantically by a woman in their lifetime, much less by multiple women in a single night.

Think about how many women pass through a prime spot on a weekend night even if it's a smaller venue. Easily 100. That means that only 25% at most show clear interest (strong not ambiguous IOI's or approach). This is for a guy who is top 1 to top 5% in generating attraction.

For guys lower in the hierarchy, but still in the top 20%, most will not get anything more than an occasional glance or smile in the overwhelming majority of situations.

I'm trying to think of a single friend or wingman who was ever approached by even a single attractive woman in her 20's. I can't even think of one, and this is over the course of over 12 years in the game. I'm not saying it's never happened, I'm simply saying I can't recall such a situation off the top of my head.
 
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Well look at that map I posted sometime of floriduh. Pasco county all the way down to collier county minus Hillsborough county(county Tampa in which is really young) has pretty high average age especially Sarasota county down to Naples. Sarasota, charlotte and collier county has some of the oldest median ages in the state. Sarasota county and Charlotte tied for first. Southeast fl and Orlando a lot younger. Not fair.
Life's not fair. Make changes or deal with it.

What about spending 90% od their time round bull dyke lesbians? That surely should be good for sex drive and erections.
Good way to go limp, no?
 

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how bad is it? I can't say... maybe its dependent on the person and/or location

I just arrived in Stockholm and have 3 matches in Tinder within 12hr from HB7+ (ages 23,34,41), I swiped about 50.
(and 4 new potential matches that I have not matched, yet)

Also spammed out to 4 ladies using WeChat nearby feature, got 3 responses.
 
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how bad is it? I can't say... maybe its dependent on the person and/or location

I just arrived in Stockholm and have 3 matches in Tinder within 12hr from HB7+ (ages 23,34,41), I swiped about 50.
(and 4 new potential matches that I have not matched, yet)
So maybe guys should quit working out, shave their heads and get some grey hairs lol.

A women who's 23 and has a guy hitting on them in their 50s will usually be repulsed unless he looked like super chad and really young and even then those 23 year olds are not into gold digging yet so you dont see them with old men often.
 

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23 year olds are not into gold digging yet so you dont see them with old men often.
they are however interested in sugar daddy, but I dont play that game...

not out because they are at the hotel or old guys house getting shagged
 

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they are however interested in sugar daddy, but I dont play that game...

not out because they are at the hotel or old guys house getting shagged
Gold digger, sugar daddy same thing basically. Going for the money.
 

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So maybe guys should quit working out, shave their heads and get some grey hairs lol.

A women who's 23 and has a guy hitting on them in their 50s will usually be repulsed unless he looked like super chad and really young and even then those 23 year olds are not into gold digging yet so you dont see them with old men often.
I already told you in another thread that the avg age of top porn superstars is 44. The thing with the young babes is they will gold dig or deal with you if you fit their scene. You may be the guy they fvck that nobody knows about
 

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I already told you in another thread that the avg age of top porn superstars is 44. The thing with the young babes is they will gold dig or deal with you if you fit their scene. You may be the guy they fvck that nobody knows about
So there really is no excuse... if you're not interested in getting married you should work on getting the four C's and be fvcking young chicks all the way up to like 45
 

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I already told you in another thread that the avg age of top porn superstars is 44. The thing with the young babes is they will gold dig or deal with you if you fit their scene. You may be the guy they fvck that nobody knows about
We are not talking about porn stars banging slvts though and mrwood does not look like a super chad porn star.
 

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the 20yo i was banging came to my place and would stay 3-4 days at a time every week...
She used my place to escape her scene, drama etc and would only tell her sister and mom where she was.
Mom was 40 something and a hot number herself, she seemed to be ok with me as she knew I was taking care of her girl and she was not on the streets etc.
You may be the guy they fvck that nobody knows about
 

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So there really is no excuse... if you're not interested in getting married you should work on getting the four C's and be fvcking young chicks all the way up to like 45
We got guys in here at 55 doing it. Guru is like 47 or 48, and banging down to 21. If you are part of the "game" in your town or city and still fashionable and attractive you can do it for a very very long time.
 

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nope, but I do fvck like one
So does ron Jeremy and hes repulsive looking. Hes what I call a greaseball. I see these types of guys like him with hb7s. Yet i cant hold onto one and i see fat ugly guys like him out and about with decent women.
 

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So does ron Jeremy and hes repulsive looking. Hes what I call a greaseball. I see these types of guys like him with hb7s. Yet i cant hold onto one and i see fat ugly guys like him out and about with decent women.
It's cause your worried about other guys, and your skinny as a twig. Add that muscle, and work your way up puzzy mountain.
 

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It's cause your worried about other guys, and your skinny as a twig. Add that muscle, and work your way up puzzy mountain.
Once I get some abs should I get off old and try hitting the beach areas but the beaches where young people hangout. During spring break period I went to my local beach and it was all snow birds and old people. Young ones up in st pete.
 

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Once I get some abs should I get off old and try hitting the beach areas but the beaches where young people hangout. During spring break period I went to my local beach and it was all snow birds and old people. Young ones up in st pete.
Your too small to have deep abs, you need to add the muscle. Spend the next year getting stronger, and eat a surplus including extra protein. The thing about this game alot of the guys aren't mentioning, is droughts. They fvck up your entire game. If you have one you can have others.
 
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