Dongfu
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ketostix said:Excellent info Zero. I forgot people out west consider Kansas the midwest. By midwest I meant Ohio, Michigan, Indiana, Illinois. but I agree with the difference. Heck even in the large city in my midwest state girls, girls try to emulate what you might find in say Los Angles or NY.And if you get out of the big city and into the smaller towns even within my state there's quite a bit of differences. But I agree with you about the differences between the regions.
Dongfu said:I think this is really important. I just realized I didnt have mine up, and I changed it.
Whether you like it or not, age plays an important factor in giving advice, because with time comes experience.
There are master dj's posting here who might be 16. Now, even if a kid is dead on with his incites, you have to suspect he may not really have done everything he claims.
There are a couple of older guys posting here, around 40, that I dont always agree with, but I respect that they have 10 years on me, so I am apt to hear them out.
So, why not show your age. It establishes trust if nothing else.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've never actually asked for any advice yet here. But, there is something I am am gearing up to ask about.Pimp-sicle said:If your looking for specific advice to your age range, spend more time in the Mature Man forum.PIMP
May father Don Juan have mercy toward youNight Owl said:With age comes wisdom, most of it learned the hard way...
I am 47, and been to hell and back in my life. I have been there, done that, got the t-shirt and lost it along with the car and house to my ex-wife.
Hopefully, I can dispense a bit of advice that might help others not to follow the same path as I did.
I wish the internet and site like this was around in the early eighties. I would have follow the advice of others and not messed up 17 years of my life !!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
lol thats funny. or imagine a famous movie star on here begging for advice to some girl who asked him for the time. :wave:Randallpink83 said:for sure J-Bone. I always am curious to know what some of the guru's look like. Pook says alot of good things (i probably havent even read all his stuff) but I always have this thought that they could just be totally full of sh!t.
Some nerdy geek boy who stops posting when his mom calls him to dinner.
Even though they give great advice and have excellent attitudes when they have the time to think about it, they could be just fronting it all... that would be sad.
And experience is far more advantageous than age...Snowyk said:Age is far more a factor than location. ..
And experience comes with age, hopefully. This is why I must be respectful of you, Cisco.Francisco d'Anconia said:And experience is far more advantageous than age...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I dont see what the problem is. If your 15, you'll get a little more sh!t, If your between 20 and 40 you'll get more props, and if your a full senior, you might get voted into the Council of Elders, where your new name will be . . . da ta dabigjohnson said:I'm old enough to know better than to tell.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.