Dongfu
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ketostix said:Excellent info Zero. I forgot people out west consider Kansas the midwest. By midwest I meant Ohio, Michigan, Indiana, Illinois. but I agree with the difference. Heck even in the large city in my midwest state girls, girls try to emulate what you might find in say Los Angles or NY.And if you get out of the big city and into the smaller towns even within my state there's quite a bit of differences. But I agree with you about the differences between the regions.
Dongfu said:I think this is really important. I just realized I didnt have mine up, and I changed it.
Whether you like it or not, age plays an important factor in giving advice, because with time comes experience.
There are master dj's posting here who might be 16. Now, even if a kid is dead on with his incites, you have to suspect he may not really have done everything he claims.
There are a couple of older guys posting here, around 40, that I dont always agree with, but I respect that they have 10 years on me, so I am apt to hear them out.
So, why not show your age. It establishes trust if nothing else.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I've never actually asked for any advice yet here. But, there is something I am am gearing up to ask about.Pimp-sicle said:If your looking for specific advice to your age range, spend more time in the Mature Man forum.PIMP
May father Don Juan have mercy toward youNight Owl said:With age comes wisdom, most of it learned the hard way...
I am 47, and been to hell and back in my life. I have been there, done that, got the t-shirt and lost it along with the car and house to my ex-wife.
Hopefully, I can dispense a bit of advice that might help others not to follow the same path as I did.
I wish the internet and site like this was around in the early eighties. I would have follow the advice of others and not messed up 17 years of my life !!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
lol thats funny. or imagine a famous movie star on here begging for advice to some girl who asked him for the time. :wave:Randallpink83 said:for sure J-Bone. I always am curious to know what some of the guru's look like. Pook says alot of good things (i probably havent even read all his stuff) but I always have this thought that they could just be totally full of sh!t.
Some nerdy geek boy who stops posting when his mom calls him to dinner.
Even though they give great advice and have excellent attitudes when they have the time to think about it, they could be just fronting it all... that would be sad.
And experience is far more advantageous than age...Snowyk said:Age is far more a factor than location. ..
And experience comes with age, hopefully. This is why I must be respectful of you, Cisco.Francisco d'Anconia said:And experience is far more advantageous than age...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I dont see what the problem is. If your 15, you'll get a little more sh!t, If your between 20 and 40 you'll get more props, and if your a full senior, you might get voted into the Council of Elders, where your new name will be . . . da ta dabigjohnson said:I'm old enough to know better than to tell.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.