"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

YeeZus

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NC - Day 4

This girl said something that I think was disrespectful. I told her not to talk to me like that but in a fun way she said "I will" (She was drunk). To this I did not talk to her the entire time we were along spend the time watching football. After I was done, i asked the waiter to pack rest of the stuff and I started moving to which she joined and i dropped her home and I left. Din't speck to her since then.

She's about 8 years younger to me. Been on NC before as well for a week wherein she reeled me in.

Just received a text few mins back saying "You have until tonight to text or call me, if you don't there is no coming back". She had told me during the last NC too that if next time you disappear that is the last time its the end.

What do you'll think?

Just got a call that I din't pick up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It would have been NC-Day approx. #184 if I wasn't so weakly "romantic"?
Valuable lessons.
+ another #62 days or so from first dumping mid July.
I'm embarassed.
But ready to admit it here, thanks for reading.

That's a lot of healing I've missed out on. You can't unread the encouraging, logical words of the forum members who helped me last summer. I was too stubborn and loyal to try keeping my word and let's face it, horrified to be alone again....but those words of advice are helping me now stay firm.


I would have regretted not trying....I literally promised I would keep trying at the first consummation.


Which, doesn't make sense....obviously it wasn't reaaaallllyy natural attraction from the beginning but rather a settling because of each other's extreme loneliness.

Awwwww.

Please help me if he contacts me first, he probably won't but then, I posted in this thread again, just in case.
 

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Day 1 no contact. Hard to get out into self improvement when the whole world is shut down because of corona virus. Fortunately I have a full gym at my work that I can go use. Hooked up a date for later this afternoon on OLD. Cute Latina girl, hopefully she looks like her pictures.

Need to move on as quickly as possible from the ex and stop her from manipulating me into thinking I’m in the wrong or sucking me back in. Not sure how everything with her turned into such a confusing heap. But I don’t want to waste anymore time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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NC - Day 4

This girl said something that I think was disrespectful. I told her not to talk to me like that but in a fun way she said "I will" (She was drunk). To this I did not talk to her the entire time we were along spend the time watching football. After I was done, i asked the waiter to pack rest of the stuff and I started moving to which she joined and i dropped her home and I left. Din't speck to her since then.

She's about 8 years younger to me. Been on NC before as well for a week wherein she reeled me in.

Just received a text few mins back saying "You have until tonight to text or call me, if you don't there is no coming back". She had told me during the last NC too that if next time you disappear that is the last time its the end.

What do you'll think?
Delete. Block. That is how you deal with it. She is saying that out of ego. She is pulling a power trip because she see's herself in a position of power over you. Giving you a deadline is saying "im in charge. I say jump you say how high."

Here is how you handle her ultimatium

Her "You have until tonight to text or call me, if you don't there is no coming back."

You. Shrug. <delete. Block> zero reply. Next.
 

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+ another #62 days or so from first dumping mid July.
I'm embarassed.
But ready to admit it here, thanks for reading.

That's a lot of healing I've missed out on. You can't unread the encouraging, logical words of the forum members who helped me last summer. I was too stubborn and loyal to try keeping my word and let's face it, horrified to be alone again....but those words of advice are helping me now stay firm.


I would have regretted not trying....I literally promised I would keep trying at the first consummation.


Which, doesn't make sense....obviously it wasn't reaaaallllyy natural attraction from the beginning but rather a settling because of each other's extreme loneliness.

Awwwww.

Please help me if he contacts me first, he probably won't but then, I posted in this thread again, just in case.
If you had problems with this guy before and broke up twice before and this is break up 3. Why would you bother entertaining any contact from him a 4th time? Next. Go meet new guys. Believe it or not it is MUCH easier foe women. Move on
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Day 6 no contact. Apparently there’s a global pandemic which makes dating really hard right now lol. Also working out. But I’m still working! I’m chatting up a few girls right now from old. Going to need to start an at home workout plan here within the next few days. I’m going to have an entire week off work! Anyway. Y’all have a goodnight.
 

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NC - Day 4

This girl said something that I think was disrespectful. I told her not to talk to me like that but in a fun way she said "I will" (She was drunk). To this I did not talk to her the entire time we were along spend the time watching football. After I was done, i asked the waiter to pack rest of the stuff and I started moving to which she joined and i dropped her home and I left. Din't speck to her since then.

She's about 8 years younger to me. Been on NC before as well for a week wherein she reeled me in.

Just received a text few mins back saying "You have until tonight to text or call me, if you don't there is no coming back". She had told me during the last NC too that if next time you disappear that is the last time its the end.

What do you'll think?
Day 18

Just got this message from her.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Interesting. Based on your post from 14 days ago (below) I would still ignore. This is not one to get back.

NC - Day 4

This girl said something that I think was disrespectful. I told her not to talk to me like that but in a fun way she said "I will" (She was drunk). To this I did not talk to her the entire time we were along spend the time watching football. After I was done, i asked the waiter to pack rest of the stuff and I started moving to which she joined and i dropped her home and I left. Din't speck to her since then.

She's about 8 years younger to me. Been on NC before as well for a week wherein she reeled me in.

Just received a text few mins back saying "You have until tonight to text or call me, if you don't there is no coming back". She had told me during the last NC too that if next time you disappear that is the last time its the end.

What do you'll think?
Whenever a chick gives you an ultimatium you give them the boot. Always. No exceptions. Here is why.

1. She isnt being flexable
2. She is deliberately pushing the boundaries you set.
3. She is trying to lead and relationships always fail when the woman tries to lead.

When the put a deadline or ultimatum on you you terminate immediately.
 

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Day 20

I Was the dumper although i felt like i was forced to do due to her total disrespect and crap behaviour and gaslighting towards me.

I could feel a break up coming and I'd just had enough and thought i would stand up and be a man and end it myself because i just wanted out because that anxiety leading up to a break up is horrible and i just wanted it to end. Im feeling better now, no anxiety, sleeping better, working out as best i can especially since all the gyms here in Australia are in lockdown.

I still miss her and eventually one day down the track i would like to be on friendly terms with her but i couldn't atm because i still have attachment to outcome of how the conversation might go. It was defitnley a Peaceful breakup. But until the pain has totally left, i wouldn't even entertain the idea of talking to her because the attachment to the outcome is too great. Still haven't heard from her.
 

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Nearly eight months of no contact and I got a whatsapp msg from her two hours ago regarding mail for me that came to my old address (we were living together, she's still there). Strange, when mail for me arrived in the last months her sister contacted me.

This happens just as I got her finally out of my mind and met someone I really like...
 
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Nearly eight months of no contact and I got a whatsapp msg from her two hours ago regarding mail for me that came to my old address (we were living together, she's still there). Strange, when mail for me arrived in the last months her sister contacted me.

This happens just as I got her finally out of my mind and met someone I really like...
Such a classic, exactly when you let go for realz they somehow smell it and dip the toe in the water to see how you're doing.
 

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Did you respond??
I didn't but thought about because I don't know if there's mail for real...
I let her sister send me my mail and transfered the porto when something arrived there the last months.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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