The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[soulforge]

I had a breakup with a decent girl once, and she flat out told me "don't put me on the pedestal." She knows herself better than you do, just because you don't see the negatives doesn't mean they aren't there. in fact she basically told me that she treated me much better than she normally treats guys. Still, I get it, things seem relative so you compare her to others and she is relatively better. Hell, one of my GFs cheated on me at LEAST 2x that I know of and she was like a unicorn compared to a lot of them lol

She was a good girl man.. All the qualities you want in a woman.. Loving, caring, obedient.

However nothing changes the FACT she was the long distance and with some ex issues..

It would have remained long distance for another 5 years, maybe even more.

It would have been foolish of me to wait that long on a woman.

I have to accept this is a blessing in disguise.. Otherwise I would have wasted many more years of my life.

 

[soulforge]

Day (lost count)

As each day goes by, more I realise this was the wrong relationship for me

I wouldn't recommend a LDR to anyone.

If you are seeing each other only once or twice a week, then that is OK for the shorter period of time, for example a year or so.

But if you want to be in a committed relationship which requires you to be long distance for YEARS on end... You best forget that Jazz.

Chances are it will go completely wrong.

 

[NSX-R]

Around 80 days of no contact.
Last month was fantastic, didn’t think of her once and i can say I’m over her . Yesterday though while i was checking the list of people i have blocked on instagram, I checked her icon to see if it’s possible to unblock her .( I wouldn’t unblock her , just wanted to check something out as I did to some other blocked accounts) There was no option to unblock her so it seems she blocked me back . It seems you have the option to block people who blocked you on instagram , still though i have no idea how that works.I felt weird and suddenly couple of thoughts came on my mind but hopefully i controlled it fast .

But still i had some laugh . She’s just buthurted and i know that , otherwise she would just ignore it and wouldn’t block me back . In couple of weeks I’m going back to my hometown and most probably to places we used to go together. I doubt if I’m going to see her but if it happens it’s gonna be so funny looking at her face while i shall be surrounded by beautiful women . Wish i had the chance to see her butthurted face once lmfao .

 

[powersize]

Day 38

Today I finally decided to delete her number and to delete her from Suggestions in Instagram (which was the most annoying, cause every time she bumps when you search for a new girl)

I hope it will help me to get completely over her. As far as i remember, she has a working contract till April and was planning to go back to Spain to start her master - so for me she has already gone.

Honestly speaking I have started NC with a desire to make it easier for myself but deep in my mind i was hopping her to come back. I have completely followed the rule: never chased and begged, deleted her social media, and totally ignored (even though she never reached me back after the break up).

For some point I am happy that she dumped me and I have experienced all of that. As a result, I started to change my attitude and behavior which will make me a better person. I have started listening to a lot of these relationship couches and reading some books about how to be successful with girls, became more socialized and trying to keep expanding my comfort zone.

Before that I have never thought that you don't need to chase a girl and never lose self respect with her. Never heard about being mysterious and unavailable, do not depend of her and do not overtext her. I was just a simple guy without serious relationship experience, who thought if you find the right person everything will be smooth and effortless.

It was painful but useful lesson. I wish to find that post in a couple of years and realize how much i have changed and how happy i am now.

 

[soulforge]

Day (Lost Count)

Do I want her back? Nope

Am I craving to see her again? Nope

Do I feel relieved? Yes

What I am feeling most days is mostly anger at MYSELF for getting involved in a committed relationship with a woman, who due to distance and obstacles, I could NEVER be with.

Why didn't i think about the long term prospects of this relationship?
I was blinded by the belief that me and her could get through 7 years of long distance.. How very silly.

I also feel some anger, because realistically, it should have been me DUMPING her ass..

Long distance single mother, with an EX who still has power over her.. She also confessed recently, that she is scared of committing fully to me, due to her ex screwing her over.. Emotionally damaged Alpha Widow.


Then the way she ended 2 years, with a simple crappy little text message.. What a coward.

So guys, remember be very careful what type of woman you get involved with... Don't WASTE your time on woman who have NOTHING to offer you.

And ALWAYS take red flags seriously!! Always

 

[Johnwic11]

day 32 for me. its been relatively easy but still always wanted to slam the door on her if she ever contacted me. oh well.

 

[powersize]

day 32 for me. its been relatively easy but still always wanted to slam the door on her if she ever contacted me. oh well.

Man, did you delete her completely or leave some kind of back door where you are waiting to her to come?

 

[Johnwic11]

Man, did you delete her completely or leave some kind of back door where you are waiting to her to come?

I Deleted her completely. I ain’t hung up on her I’m hung up on the fact I can’t troll the ***** lol.

 

[Johnwic11]

Man, did you delete her completely or leave some kind of back door where you are waiting to her to come?

Nah I just wanted to troll her if she ever texted me now that I’m relatively over it

 

[powersize]

Nah I just wanted to troll her if she ever texted me now that I’m relatively over it

By keeping her number you just make the process of getting over her longer. It could be invisible for you over the day but deeply inside you know that you can call her whenever you want. It is like trying to quit smoking by keeping a cigarette pack hidden somewhere... just in case....to show how strong you are. But every time when you want really smoke you will be struggling of that feeling, that it is right here, available.


I would say when I finally deleted her number - at least I don't wait anymore her to call or text me. Right now the ball is in her hands. If she will contact me - maybe we will figure something out, if no - too bad for her. Cause I learned my mistakes and on my way to be the best version of myself.

 

[Johnwic11]

By keeping her number you just make the process of getting over her longer. It could be invisible for you over the day but deeply inside you know that you can call her whenever you want. It is like trying to quit smoking by keeping a cigarette pack hidden somewhere... just in case....to show how strong you are. But every time when you want really smoke you will be struggling of that feeling, that it is right here, available.


I would say when I finally deleted her number - at least I don't wait anymore her to call or text me. Right now the ball is in her hands. If she will contact me - maybe we will figure something out, if no - too bad for her. Cause I learned my mistakes and on my way to be the best version of myself.

i did delete her number. I aint "waiting" for her to text me. would I love to reject her. yes. so probably 80 percent over it

 

[soulforge]

3 weeks NC

I am at the stage now, where I have accepted that the breakup was the BEST thing for me.

Waiting on a girl 5 years long distance, while she raises another man child, is FUKING INSANE.

If she came back to me tomorrow, I would absolutely REJECT her, she has no future to offer me.

I have a question guys.. Even though she did the dumping, I am happy with that decision.

However.. I did not reply back to her dumping text...


Was ghosting her the best option?

Or should I have replied back, and said, hey I am happy with the breakup, I don't think you are the right girl for me long term.

Is ghosting the much more powerful response?

 

[DreamAgain]

3 weeks NC

I am at the stage now, where I have accepted that the breakup was the BEST thing for me.

Waiting on a girl 5 years long distance, while she raises another man child, is FUKING INSANE.

If she came back to me tomorrow, I would absolutely REJECT her, she has no future to offer me.

I have a question guys.. Even though she did the dumping, I am happy with that decision.

However.. I did not reply back to her dumping text...


Was ghosting her the best option?

Or should I have replied back, and said, hey I am happy with the breakup, I don't think you are the right girl for me long term.

Is ghosting the much more powerful response?

Ghosting is the more powerful response, I read a post here that stands out to me perhaps more than any other.

Hamsters run best in silence.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Was ghosting her the best option?

Or should I have replied back, and said, hey I am happy with the breakup, I don't think you are the right girl for me long term.

Is ghosting the much more powerful response?

Hamsters run best in silence.

@DreamAgain That made me laugh! It is so true, too!

 

[soulforge]

Ghosting is the more powerful response, I read a post here that stands out to me perhaps more than any other.

Hamsters run best in silence.

Do you remember which post it was?

 

[LARaiders85]

@DreamAgain That made me laugh! It is so true, too!

My good female friend told me "more guys need to go no contact, it's the only way we ever learn."

 

[DreamAgain]

Do you remember which post it was?

I don't, but it was an epic line haha.

 

[soulforge]

My good female friend told me "more guys need to go no contact, it's the only way we ever learn."

Let them experience life without you.. Let them get ruined and burned by the savages outhere.

Then they will learn!

 

[bobafatt]

Had a whatsapp missed call from her on friday which i ignored, then the same again today so i messaged her saying ive had 2 missed calls..

she replied sorry it was by accident, damn phone!

yeahhhhh alright then haha

 

[Robert28]

Let them experience life without you.. Let them get ruined and burned by the savages outhere.

Then they will learn!

By the time they learn their market value is **** and nobody wants them. Not even the good guys.