itcantgetworse
Don Juan
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ok so thats 2 txs now i havnt replied to thanks wanna get this rightPurefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ok so thats 2 txs now i havnt replied to thanks wanna get this rightPurefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wow 50 days that must put you in a good place ,heard about sending a seed tx letter email but i dunno im sure u will get guided on here well done 50 dayspopsickle said:I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
Walking away says enough man.popsickle said:I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
same again.Purefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
do you think ill get more and more txs ,if i ignore themPurefilth said:same again.
It's an addiction. Think of the rush you get from adrenaline - same type of concept. The attention is addicting for them.sadonomspa said:Why do they crave the attention? Do they need attention from everyone in their lives?
In my situation all her friends make her the center of the world.
And maybe in another case another sig other.
So why are they so attention starved? Is it not enough?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
itcantgetworse said:another tx
pmsl have you changed yur number already
i went 14 days and broke it friday night then i went round her house let me in had a chat i didnt ask her back just spoke both got pissed so i pressed some buttons got a dabble prob could have pushed for sex but i didnt want that ,it was like i can still get you to undress swapped a few txs next day jokey ones then a couple of useles ones and stopped tx when i realised what i had donesadonomspa said:Shes getting desperate. How long have you been NC? Dont respond.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.