itcantgetworse
Don Juan
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ok so thats 2 txs now i havnt replied to thanks wanna get this rightPurefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ok so thats 2 txs now i havnt replied to thanks wanna get this rightPurefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wow 50 days that must put you in a good place ,heard about sending a seed tx letter email but i dunno im sure u will get guided on here well done 50 dayspopsickle said:I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
Walking away says enough man.popsickle said:I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
same again.Purefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
do you think ill get more and more txs ,if i ignore themPurefilth said:same again.
It's an addiction. Think of the rush you get from adrenaline - same type of concept. The attention is addicting for them.sadonomspa said:Why do they crave the attention? Do they need attention from everyone in their lives?
In my situation all her friends make her the center of the world.
And maybe in another case another sig other.
So why are they so attention starved? Is it not enough?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
itcantgetworse said:another tx
pmsl have you changed yur number already
i went 14 days and broke it friday night then i went round her house let me in had a chat i didnt ask her back just spoke both got pissed so i pressed some buttons got a dabble prob could have pushed for sex but i didnt want that ,it was like i can still get you to undress swapped a few txs next day jokey ones then a couple of useles ones and stopped tx when i realised what i had donesadonomspa said:Shes getting desperate. How long have you been NC? Dont respond.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.