"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

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day 5 done ,still good seem to have got the hang off controling my emotions and thinking logic feels much better feeling human again smiling seem to have more energy and had a good night sleep :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Day 15, woke up today feeling kinda ****ty. but its passed for the most part. im hvaing trouble getting back to truly happy self. I seem to stay upset or ok rarly very happy again, I mask my pain well at work guess fake it till i make it. Im gonna start up again prob saturday been 5-6 weeks now its time to try and get back on that horse. Ive been helping a friend and trying to get my old mindset and beliefs back...but its a process nothing is instant in heart break...
 

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day 6 done ,had hangover today they suck as they make me emotional but i got through it also its friday the main day we use to spend together without kids never mind onwards and upwards ignore ignore delete forget
 

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one girl I nc 2 weeks, the other 3 weeks

the one that is 2 weeks, her sister came on my job and we talked about her,and I told her sister she need to get her **** together before we got on speaking terms

did I break nc?
 

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Fatal Jay said:
one girl I nc 2 weeks, the other 3 weeks

the one that is 2 weeks, her sister came on my job and we talked about her,and I told her sister she need to get her **** together before we got on speaking terms

did I break nc?
Technically - no.

Are these girls you got dumped by both th the same time?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Purefilth said:
Technically - no.

Are these girls you got dumped by both th the same time?
Well the 2 weeks I dumped her

The 3 weeks we was intimate but was not dating, we got into a fight one night and haven't talked since

I was in fact talking to them at the sometime though
 

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Fatal Jay said:
Well the 2 weeks I dumped her

The 3 weeks we was intimate but was not dating, we got into a fight one night and haven't talked since

I was in fact talking to them at the sometime though
It sounds like you've just NEXTed both of them tbh.

The 3 week one sounds like its well over.


How long was the relationship? Do you WANT to salvage it?
 

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Purefilth said:
It sounds like you've just NEXTed both of them tbh.

The 3 week one sounds like its well over.


How long was the relationship? Do you WANT to salvage it?

yeah the 3 weeks was over before it started, the 2 weeks she was boring and expected too much she she did little, so no I wouldn't want to salvage unless he gave more, but if not I wouldn't care much to be back with her.
 

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Fatal Jay said:
yeah the 3 weeks was over before it started, the 2 weeks she was boring and expected too much she she did little, so no I wouldn't want to salvage unless he gave more, but if not I wouldn't care much to be back with her.
Sounds like you just need to pick up a few more plates and you're golden then :up:
 

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Been nc since New Years Day when she contacted me and I caved in. She hasn't attempted to contact me which is good because iam still feeling weak.
What's cool is that iam remembering more and more bad stuff and actually slept well last night. I now have a girl that's much nicer and prettier which is cool. We are going out Monday.
We have been texting back and fourth for a few days now. Iam so greatful to have days like this.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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7 days nc really fine today party later waiting on a girl to say yes to come with me more to do with getting back the art of chat etc
 

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just starting day 8 nc ,the girl never came the party think it was because she was worried it just being a rebound ,party was rubbish not many there this dipped my mood too much to drink then seen something i didnt like nearly lost it and done something stupid but i hung in there and didnt woke up today reflect on last night and happy i didnt do anything silly lesson i must be carefull on drink as it can set me back still need more healing time so heres to day 8
 

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8 day nc complete ,think i will get sex later just dont want her thinking i wanna a relationship with her :crazy:
 

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day 19, its been tough...I'm going to run into her b/c of this event...idk if i should go or not, b/c im going to see her and her parents, Her parents love me and i feel obligated to say hi to them...its osmething i goto every month and she doesnt always go, but i know she is this month. I dont want her to feel she has power over me b/c if i dont go she will know why??! am i wrong? She knows it will be wierd if i dont go...it been tough. Idk if shes been trying to contact me anymore b/c i blocked her number after her call on christmas asking me if i miss having sex with her telling me i should be with her, and that she cant get over me...only to say she is dating someone else...im confused on what to do...I ve been missing her alot i wont lie it still sucks....
 

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sounds kinda BPD^^^
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Purefilth said:
sounds kinda BPD^^^
the girl is bpd...any suggestions on what to do, and if i go how to act?
 
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j0504s said:
the girl is bpd...any suggestions on what to do, and if i go how to act?
You sound like you are still pretty heated about her.

If I were you, I wouldn't go. Kind of passive aggressive, but if someone pisses me off than I REALLY won't want to see their face or have to speak to them.


But if you do go, keep your calm, say hi to her if you have to and make small chat, but then avoid her. I wouldn't want to talk to her anymore if she had mentioned her lays to me, like she did with you.
 

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CostaDeSol said:
You sound like you are still pretty heated about her.

If I were you, I wouldn't go. Kind of passive aggressive, but if someone pisses me off than I REALLY won't want to see their face or have to speak to them.


But if you do go, keep your calm, say hi to her if you have to and make small chat, but then avoid her. I wouldn't want to talk to her anymore if she had mentioned her lays to me, like she did with you.
ya im am still heated...she ****ed with my head so bad...the true reason i stayed out of exclusive relationship, I really dont want her to feel empowered. I know i shouldnt care but i still do. I miss her alot more then i anticipated...I am so stuck right now on what to do this sucks.
 

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I really dont want her to feel empowered.
Is the event really that important?

Once again, IMHO, I wouldn't go if I were you.

I believe that no contact, out of sight and out of mind, is the best policy.
 

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Agreed^
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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