itcantgetworse
Don Juan
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ok so thats 2 txs now i havnt replied to thanks wanna get this rightPurefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ok so thats 2 txs now i havnt replied to thanks wanna get this rightPurefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wow 50 days that must put you in a good place ,heard about sending a seed tx letter email but i dunno im sure u will get guided on here well done 50 dayspopsickle said:I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
Walking away says enough man.popsickle said:I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
same again.Purefilth said:Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
do you think ill get more and more txs ,if i ignore themPurefilth said:same again.
It's an addiction. Think of the rush you get from adrenaline - same type of concept. The attention is addicting for them.sadonomspa said:Why do they crave the attention? Do they need attention from everyone in their lives?
In my situation all her friends make her the center of the world.
And maybe in another case another sig other.
So why are they so attention starved? Is it not enough?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
itcantgetworse said:another tx
pmsl have you changed yur number already
i went 14 days and broke it friday night then i went round her house let me in had a chat i didnt ask her back just spoke both got pissed so i pressed some buttons got a dabble prob could have pushed for sex but i didnt want that ,it was like i can still get you to undress swapped a few txs next day jokey ones then a couple of useles ones and stopped tx when i realised what i had donesadonomspa said:Shes getting desperate. How long have you been NC? Dont respond.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.