"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
 

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popsickle said:
I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
wow 50 days that must put you in a good place ,heard about sending a seed tx letter email but i dunno im sure u will get guided on here well done 50 days :up:
 

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popsickle said:
I've been NC for a while now, around day 50 I think. I've been going out getting girls and all but somehow I feel like I still have some kind of bitterness on my chest that's like haunting me. Could it be because I never expressed what was on my mind? I just walked away after we broke up. I'm thinking of talking to her one last time to say what's on my mind and wish her good luck with her new guy and all. What do you think?
Walking away says enough man.
That's what I did in April, or was it June? I forget.

I know the feeling, cos I get it occasionally, you just wanna empty both barrels ah her.

In the end you'll come off bitter and resentful, but most of all you'll be showing her how greatly she affects you still.

Be a man and stay the path - well done so far.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm not sure why I still have this bitterness though. When I didn't know what she was doing and I was getting girls, I was doing good. Then when I learned she got someone -the lovey dovey kind of thing, not casual sex like what I was having-, I got pissed. Is it solely ego?
 

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Woke up all positive today ,decided not to go the pub ,chilling in my room playing my music aint done that in ages so why the hell do i feel i should tx her bloody annoying :cuss:
 

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I have been stewing since I started NC. I stumbled on something on the net called "no more mr nice guy". Basically what it says is that these feelings we men have is because we do not really have our own **** together, so how can we expect someone to love or respect us when we do not respect ourselves. The only solution to these feelings is to constantly work on our own happiness and self improvement. Only then can you as a man get better. Check it out, it is some pretty compelling stuff.
 

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Day 1 done. been since 15:45 5th of january since my last tx gutted i broke it on the 14th day move on got some goals to achieve this week i need to find myself cause i def aint happy at the moment
 

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So she contacted me the day after New Years to wish me a good one and a happy 2013.
I responded stupidly but I kept it cool and collected. She seemed much more attentive and responded to me right away as opposed to before she would write back hours days or not even.
Since then I also found out she has been commenting on my brother,best friend, and his wife's facebook.
I have written down all the red flags in this relationship and even have some nice girls after me but there is some sort of block.
Me and her have not spoken since but my friend thinks she is going to try some crap soon.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Attention attention attention that's all don't respond, itcan'tgetworse
same again.
 

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Why do they crave the attention? Do they need attention from everyone in their lives?
In my situation all her friends make her the center of the world.
And maybe in another case another sig other.
So why are they so attention starved? Is it not enough?
 

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Why do they crave the attention? Do they need attention from everyone in their lives?
In my situation all her friends make her the center of the world.
And maybe in another case another sig other.
So why are they so attention starved? Is it not enough?
It's an addiction. Think of the rush you get from adrenaline - same type of concept. The attention is addicting for them.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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itcangetworse,

I think it depends. Mine has daddy issues and when I act hard and strong she becomes a kitten with me. If she has head issues like mine does there might be a point in time where her contacts will escalate with you.

Whats been happening to me is she is facebook commenting my friends and some family. That was when I was ignoring her. But later that day we did speak.

So I guess she did win and now I am back to NC. I did not ness feel bad when speaking to her but made it seem I was really busy.

My issue is, if she does try to pull some crap and come back I am still sort of weak in the mind to reject it, or maybe not.

Depends on how emotionally scared she is.
 

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sadonomspa said:
Shes getting desperate. How long have you been NC? Dont respond.
i went 14 days and broke it friday night then i went round her house let me in had a chat i didnt ask her back just spoke both got pissed so i pressed some buttons got a dabble prob could have pushed for sex but i didnt want that ,it was like i can still get you to undress swapped a few txs next day jokey ones then a couple of useles ones and stopped tx when i realised what i had done
 

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Damn dude so she broke up with you and sends all these mixed signals?

I am starting to relize you break up once or twice it will happen again and again. All these damn cycles and games.

Remember we need to be logical about this not emotional .
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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