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Yet another update:

So after the text about the account still being up and me being able to use it, 4 hours go by and she sends me the new password. Then 30 minutes go by and she says something to the affect of "I doubt you'll respond or use it but it's there if you want to".

How do I set this up for the FWB status later down the road. My plan currently is to continue to go no contact.

Be aware, this girl is currently in a rebound relationship with a guy she claimed was a gay friend when we were dating. She broke up with me and that's when I found out she was lying about the gay friend. For more details and specifics check out the thread "Why do girls continue to lie" that I posted in this same forum.
You should ignore her and she shouldn't really matter to you. All she wants it attention ,if not, she would come to your place and do whatever you want. You know how high interest girls act. She wants to make you believe that she will open her legs for you and if you buy that and play her game you lose.
Nothing you text her will somehow manipulate her into wanting to fvck you. Ignore, look for better opportunities, Focus on yourself and if she ever Hits you up again ( and i dont mean sending you one text or breadcrumbing you ) you could bang her nothing more because she already proved that she is not worth anything more.
 

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You should ignore her and she shouldn't really matter to you. All she wants it attention ,if not, she would come to your place and do whatever you want. You know how high interest girls act. She wants to make you believe that she will open her legs for you and if you buy that and play her game you lose.
Nothing you text her will somehow manipulate her into wanting to fvck you. Ignore, look for better opportunities, Focus on yourself and if she ever Hits you up again ( and i dont mean sending you one text or breadcrumbing you ) you could bang her nothing more because she already proved that she is not worth anything more.
Okay, one last update unless I break no contact (which is not gonna happen).

She just texted me "so you're just gonna ignore me now, okay cool".

Again, this is a girl that broke up with me, said she didn't feel in love with me anymore, lied to me in the preceding weeks about her rebound being gay, and the last conversation she had with me said she was afraid of me because I threatened to punch this guy in the face if I ever see him, and then hung up the phone on me.

What the ****...
 

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Okay, one last update unless I break no contact (which is not gonna happen).

She just texted me "so you're just gonna ignore me now, okay cool".

Again, this is a girl that broke up with me, said she didn't feel in love with me anymore, lied to me in the preceding weeks about her rebound being gay, and the last conversation she had with me said she was afraid of me because I threatened to punch this guy in the face if I ever see him, and then hung up the phone on me.

What the ****...
Nothing unusual she's a women and most probably a crazy one. Ignore and move on. She wants attention and she likes to manipulate through communication. She smells that you're still on the hook. She can read this signs. If you don't understand why, read some books educate yourself more on this topic. Consume more red pill stuff. This is how they operate.
 

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Dude, seriously at this point, just block her and keep her blocked. She won’t be in your mind this much if you block her. We’re gonna be getting small updates like this for a few weeks (and there all pointless). Just attempt to move on and stop hoping she’s going to send something of significance.
 

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Okay, one last update unless I break no contact (which is not gonna happen).

She just texted me "so you're just gonna ignore me now, okay cool".

Again, this is a girl that broke up with me, said she didn't feel in love with me anymore, lied to me in the preceding weeks about her rebound being gay, and the last conversation she had with me said she was afraid of me because I threatened to punch this guy in the face if I ever see him, and then hung up the phone on me.

What the ****...
She is realizing she made a mistake and is now trying to get you back on the hook, or at least as an option. She is baiting you.

Send her this and then block the number:
 

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Okay, one last update unless I break no contact (which is not gonna happen).

She just texted me "so you're just gonna ignore me now, okay cool".

Again, this is a girl that broke up with me, said she didn't feel in love with me anymore, lied to me in the preceding weeks about her rebound being gay, and the last conversation she had with me said she was afraid of me because I threatened to punch this guy in the face if I ever see him, and then hung up the phone on me.

What the ****...
Ignore delete. Do not respond. Especially do not respond to drama.
 

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Well, never thought I'd be here. I have been in a relationship on and off for almost the past 2 years. Even when we broke up I would inadvertently do the no contact rule and she would come back and we would get back together.

This time it seems this is not going to happen. Last time we spoke was on the phone on august 8/9 can't remember specific date. I went 30 days no contact and thanks to stupid YouTube videos I broke it on September 10.

Needless to say she never responded. Hurt like hell. I have been doing No contact ever since. those first 2 weeks were hell but then it was easy. after hitting her up in September and not getting a response my world crumbled.

I did not make things better by sending a "farewell" message. "Well I am not going to chase you anymore, if you want to contact me you have my number. good bye" Gosh looking back at it I sound SOOO ****ing pathethic. is as if all the progress I made over the last 2 years went down the drain and I went to my AFC ways.

Anyways I am making this post because I want to actually commit to it this time forever... it really sucks because I want her back but I know is my ego. today is day 59 or 60 not sure.... it should have been close to day 90 but anyways hopefully I can use this post to forget her....
 

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Well, never thought I'd be here. I have been in a relationship on and off for almost the past 2 years. Even when we broke up I would inadvertently do the no contact rule and she would come back and we would get back together.

This time it seems this is not going to happen. Last time we spoke was on the phone on august 8/9 can't remember specific date. I went 30 days no contact and thanks to stupid YouTube videos I broke it on September 10.

Needless to say she never responded. Hurt like hell. I have been doing No contact ever since. those first 2 weeks were hell but then it was easy. after hitting her up in September and not getting a response my world crumbled.

I did not make things better by sending a "farewell" message. "Well I am not going to chase you anymore, if you want to contact me you have my number. good bye" Gosh looking back at it I sound SOOO ****ing pathethic. is as if all the progress I made over the last 2 years went down the drain and I went to my AFC ways.

Anyways I am making this post because I want to actually commit to it this time forever... it really sucks because I want her back but I know is my ego. today is day 59 or 60 not sure.... it should have been close to day 90 but anyways hopefully I can use this post to forget her....
I think it wasn't the right decision to take her back all the time. She probably lost respect at some point. And the fact that you weren't able to let her go shows that you got attached which also lowered her attraction. You are responsible for your pain because you let it come to this point. Should've dumped her earlier.
 

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Well, never thought I'd be here. I have been in a relationship on and off for almost the past 2 years. Even when we broke up I would inadvertently do the no contact rule and she would come back and we would get back together.

This time it seems this is not going to happen. Last time we spoke was on the phone on august 8/9 can't remember specific date. I went 30 days no contact and thanks to stupid YouTube videos I broke it on September 10.

Needless to say she never responded. Hurt like hell. I have been doing No contact ever since. those first 2 weeks were hell but then it was easy. after hitting her up in September and not getting a response my world crumbled.

I did not make things better by sending a "farewell" message. "Well I am not going to chase you anymore, if you want to contact me you have my number. good bye" Gosh looking back at it I sound SOOO ****ing pathethic. is as if all the progress I made over the last 2 years went down the drain and I went to my AFC ways.

Anyways I am making this post because I want to actually commit to it this time forever... it really sucks because I want her back but I know is my ego. today is day 59 or 60 not sure.... it should have been close to day 90 but anyways hopefully I can use this post to forget her....
If it's on again/off again it's not a relationship. I often ask my AFC friends about their on again/off again relationships and how long they consider themselves to have been dating the person. They'll tell me how long they've been going back and forth but then tell me the number of months they actually were in a relationship and not broken up. I tell them, you might as well take the first relationship you had, maybe that was 3 months, put an asterisk next to it and consider that the "true" length of their relationship.

Once you take her back no questions asked you enter her frame and unconsciously approve her behavior. She'll think, well he's taken me back all the other times so...

I know it's rough, and you feel she'll never speak to you again, maybe its true. But that should be of no concern of yours regardless. There's plenty of females out there that you can be with and it'll never be on/off again. All the little features you are so caught up on this one can be mutually found in another but this time around you can establish and hold frame.
 

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Well, never thought I'd be here. I have been in a relationship on and off for almost the past 2 years. Even when we broke up I would inadvertently do the no contact rule and she would come back and we would get back together.

This time it seems this is not going to happen. Last time we spoke was on the phone on august 8/9 can't remember specific date. I went 30 days no contact and thanks to stupid YouTube videos I broke it on September 10.

Needless to say she never responded. Hurt like hell. I have been doing No contact ever since. those first 2 weeks were hell but then it was easy. after hitting her up in September and not getting a response my world crumbled.

I did not make things better by sending a "farewell" message. "Well I am not going to chase you anymore, if you want to contact me you have my number. good bye" Gosh looking back at it I sound SOOO ****ing pathethic. is as if all the progress I made over the last 2 years went down the drain and I went to my AFC ways.

Anyways I am making this post because I want to actually commit to it this time forever... it really sucks because I want her back but I know is my ego. today is day 59 or 60 not sure.... it should have been close to day 90 but anyways hopefully I can use this post to forget her....
On again off again will do nothing but teach her you are a pushover and her behaviour will spiral downwards to deplorable. She will seek out other guys because she has it in the back of her head you will always take her back. This is the worst position to be in because the woman will believe she has carte blanche to treat you poorly, abuse you, disrespect you, even cheat on you.

Make it known you will give a girl 1 i repeat one chance per lifetime. If she blows that chance she is out for good. No Time apart, no breaks No second chances nothing.

She ends it. Done. Next. No coming back. You end it. Done. No second chances.

She tries to come back after she pulls" i no longer love you i don't know what i want, i think we should see other people blah blah blah blah." Then pulls the " i made a huge mistake i want you back take me back," The answer is always the same. Sorry. No. It is over. You ended it. Goodbye.

You move forward. Next. She is history.

When a girl has it in her head you will always be her safety net, she will take risks. She will flirt with other guys she will entertain their advances she will cheat, she will treat you badly because she believes you will always be there.

When a girl knows you will throw her to the curb with the rest of the trash and not ever give her another chance, how much bad behaviour do you think she will pull then?
 

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On again off again will do nothing but teach her you are a pushover and her behaviour will spiral downwards to deplorable. She will seek out other guys because she has it in the back of her head you will always take her back. This is the worst position to be in because the woman will believe she has carte blanche to treat you poorly, abuse you, disrespect you, even cheat on you.

Make it known you will give a girl 1 i repeat one chance per lifetime. If she blows that chance she is out for good. No Time apart, no breaks No second chances nothing.

She ends it. Done. Next. No coming back. You end it. Done. No second chances.

She tries to come back after she pulls" i no longer love you i don't know what i want, i think we should see other people blah blah blah blah." Then pulls the " i made a huge mistake i want you back take me back," The answer is always the same. Sorry. No. It is over. You ended it. Goodbye.

You move forward. Next. She is history.

When a girl has it in her head you will always be her safety net, she will take risks. She will flirt with other guys she will entertain their advances she will cheat, she will treat you badly because she believes you will always be there.

When a girl knows you will throw her to the curb with the rest of the trash and not ever give her another chance, how much bad behaviour do you think she will pull then?
Very nicely summed up
 

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I think it wasn't the right decision to take her back all the time. She probably lost respect at some point. And the fact that you weren't able to let her go shows that you got attached which also lowered her attraction. You are responsible for your pain because you let it come to this point. Should've dumped her earlier.
On again off again will do nothing but teach her you are a pushover and her behaviour will spiral downwards to deplorable. She will seek out other guys because she has it in the back of her head you will always take her back. This is the worst position to be in because the woman will believe she has carte blanche to treat you poorly, abuse you, disrespect you, even cheat on you.

Make it known you will give a girl 1 i repeat one chance per lifetime. If she blows that chance she is out for good. No Time apart, no breaks No second chances nothing.

She ends it. Done. Next. No coming back. You end it. Done. No second chances.

She tries to come back after she pulls" i no longer love you i don't know what i want, i think we should see other people blah blah blah blah." Then pulls the " i made a huge mistake i want you back take me back," The answer is always the same. Sorry. No. It is over. You ended it. Goodbye.

You move forward. Next. She is history.

When a girl has it in her head you will always be her safety net, she will take risks. She will flirt with other guys she will entertain their advances she will cheat, she will treat you badly because she believes you will always be there.

When a girl knows you will throw her to the curb with the rest of the trash and not ever give her another chance, how much bad behaviour do you think she will pull then?
Hey I am kind of confused. Why do you guys say I am a pushover or that I let her disrespect me? were you guys there? I don't want to sound like I am angry but you guys make it seem like she was running over me or the relationship. Now I can see based on what i wrote you guys automatically assume the worst. I never let her disrespect me without checking her ever. I always put her in her place. She even said how I am different from the other guys she had been. the issue obviously for our breakups were either she got too outta hand and I had to break it up and then she would start acting right. or i would act very needy and clingy and she would distance herself.

Other than that I do agree that taking her back multiple times may have given her a sense of comfortability with me. That was usually things I would consider when I took her back, but since she always came back better and well behaved I said "Fvck it"

Overall thank you for your input I may be a little defensive since this relationship was a whole new experience for me and I honestly want to keep things positive and see what I can learn from it rather than labelling her or attacking her. I am not a victim nor is she, we both did this to ourselves.
 

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Hey I am kind of confused. Why do you guys say I am a pushover or that I let her disrespect me? were you guys there? I don't want to sound like I am angry but you guys make it seem like she was running over me or the relationship. Now I can see based on what i wrote you guys automatically assume the worst. I never let her disrespect me without checking her ever. I always put her in her place. She even said how I am different from the other guys she had been. the issue obviously for our breakups were either she got too outta hand and I had to break it up and then she would start acting right. or i would act very needy and clingy and she would distance herself.

Other than that I do agree that taking her back multiple times may have given her a sense of comfortability with me. That was usually things I would consider when I took her back, but since she always came back better and well behaved I said "Fvck it"

Overall thank you for your input I may be a little defensive since this relationship was a whole new experience for me and I honestly want to keep things positive and see what I can learn from it rather than labelling her or attacking her. I am not a victim nor is she, we both did this to ourselves.
I didn't say you're pushover and that you necessarilly let yourself disrespect all the time but a woman who really respects you doesn't leave you many times and then comes back only to repeat it. There must be a reason for that. She might be a low quality girl or it was something you caused or just a combination of both.
imo a woman who leaves you one time is not ltr or marriage material especially if she leaves for a longer period of time. That's just not reliable behaviour. I wouldn't take her seriously at some point.
And you don't have to be defensive i just talked about your behaviour because that's the part you can change.

On my painful journey there were many guys who never criticized me or talked about my behaviour. Whenever i asked them for advice, they said stuff like '' bro, she is a ho you will find a unicorn she doesn't even deserve you '' that doesn't help. What i needed was clear logical advice. Not some bs that made me feel better about myself.
 

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Hey I am kind of confused. Why do you guys say I am a pushover or that I let her disrespect me? were you guys there? I don't want to sound like I am angry but you guys make it seem like she was running over me or the relationship. Now I can see based on what i wrote you guys automatically assume the worst. I never let her disrespect me without checking her ever. I always put her in her place. She even said how I am different from the other guys she had been. the issue obviously for our breakups were either she got too outta hand and I had to break it up and then she would start acting right. or i would act very needy and clingy and she would distance herself.

Other than that I do agree that taking her back multiple times may have given her a sense of comfortability with me. That was usually things I would consider when I took her back, but since she always came back better and well behaved I said "Fvck it"

Overall thank you for your input I may be a little defensive since this relationship was a whole new experience for me and I honestly want to keep things positive and see what I can learn from it rather than labelling her or attacking her. I am not a victim nor is she, we both did this to ourselves.
My comment wasn't meant to be offensive, as we have all been there at least once in our lives where we have given a low quality girl one too many chances. The problem is when you do that they will take it for granted you always will take her back. We have all had that one girl who exploited our forgiveness. Don't beat yourself up. And i didn't mean for my comment to come off as inflammatory.

You may not view yourself as a pushover. You may argue and fight with her and feel you are not being one. But how she views you may infact be entirely different.

When you take them back over and over sorry dude but she will view you as a pushover.

Stand and fight and argue all you want. She still gets her way in the end when you take her back over and over. Yes you stood up to her. Yes you checked her behaviour. But in the end you still took her back on multiple occasions.
 
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Girlfriend of 16 months just told me last night that she isn’t feeling it anymore and that she sees us more as friends. I said okay and asked her to leave (she lives in my house) but because of Covid she has nowhere to go until Friday when her friends sort something out for her (she’s not from this country so has no family here). Seemed desperate so I said she could stay in the spare room. Feel terrible but guess it’s back to square one
 

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Girlfriend of 16 months just told me last night that she isn’t feeling it anymore and that she sees us more as friends. I said okay and asked her to leave (she lives in my house) but because of Covid she has nowhere to go until Friday when her friends sort something out for her (she’s not from this country so has no family here). Seemed desperate so I said she could stay in the spare room. Feel terrible but guess it’s back to square one
Throw her out.
 

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Girlfriend of 16 months just told me last night that she isn’t feeling it anymore and that she sees us more as friends. I said okay and asked her to leave (she lives in my house) but because of Covid she has nowhere to go until Friday when her friends sort something out for her (she’s not from this country so has no family here). Seemed desperate so I said she could stay in the spare room. Feel terrible but guess it’s back to square one
Be more fair to yourself. I would kick the b1tch out the moment she say she doesn't want nothing more romantically, i dont give a fvck where she's gonna go. I was kicking girls out of a car in the middle of nowhere yet to keep her in my place after we ended,not a chance.

Also, her saying she doesn't feel nothing for you means she's been drilled by other guy for some time now, she was just testing waters time before "the talk" and now is ready for branch swing. Kick her out before Friday.
 
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