TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Sosuave really wasn't a thing of his past.Atom Smasher said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Ah, but it IS a thing of BeHappy's past.
BeHappy's meteoric rise and tragic fall was quite the spectacle.
BeHappy's meteoric rise and tragic fall was quite the spectacle.
Married Buried
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So what's the rule? After you get banned how long do you have to stay away before you can make another name? 2 months, 3 months? I wouldn't know I have never been banned in my life from any site.Atom Smasher said:
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
BeHappy was banned because he is a duplicate account of someone who said he was going to leave but actually didn't leave.
In regard to your specific question, we take it case-by-case. We have always been pretty lenient in allowing banned members to come back fairly quickly. I've seen several come back within a month. Look at Ninja. We allowed him back multiple times but he always fell back into nonsensical trolling.
If a guy is extremely belligerent and/or deemed obviously harmful to the site, we will be less likely to allow a quick comeback. Every case is different.
In regard to your specific question, we take it case-by-case. We have always been pretty lenient in allowing banned members to come back fairly quickly. I've seen several come back within a month. Look at Ninja. We allowed him back multiple times but he always fell back into nonsensical trolling.
If a guy is extremely belligerent and/or deemed obviously harmful to the site, we will be less likely to allow a quick comeback. Every case is different.
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Atom Smasher said:
"BEDJ" = "BEHAPPY"
Hmmmmmmm I think I figured it out I'm a genius.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Ha ha me too. Just when I was thinking I was a sleuth you had to steal my thunder didn't you Malice? lol.
I don't understand this mentality behind leaving a website/forum. People go on like they're leaving some kind of club or something that requires a 40 minute drive to get to. All you need to do is pickup your smart phone and type the web address in.
If you don't fancy posting up then don't. Times change, what was yesterday isn't today. No one can change anything by simply giving up. Either push for what you believe in or don't. :crazy:
If you don't fancy posting up then don't. Times change, what was yesterday isn't today. No one can change anything by simply giving up. Either push for what you believe in or don't. :crazy:
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People like to feel missed, so when they make these threads stating they are leaving, they secretly hope hordes of people will beg them to stay. When in reality nobody gives a damn. It's like when you leave a job, you never existed. Nobody gives a damn.adam225 said:
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Then they come back under a new name.Malice said:
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Oh re-lax, I haven't abandoned Sosuave and I never will. Being a blog and book author demands a lot of my time, but I haven't forsaken SS.
I'm still a mod here too.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Ummmmm.... we know that....
Feeling very relaxed.
Feeling very relaxed.