"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SoSuave is a Thing of my Past

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ah, but it IS a thing of BeHappy's past.

BeHappy's meteoric rise and tragic fall was quite the spectacle.
 

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Ah, but it IS a thing of BeHappy's past.

BeHappy's meteoric rise and tragic fall was quite the spectacle.
So what's the rule? After you get banned how long do you have to stay away before you can make another name? 2 months, 3 months? I wouldn't know I have never been banned in my life from any site.
 

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BeHappy was banned because he is a duplicate account of someone who said he was going to leave but actually didn't leave.

In regard to your specific question, we take it case-by-case. We have always been pretty lenient in allowing banned members to come back fairly quickly. I've seen several come back within a month. Look at Ninja. We allowed him back multiple times but he always fell back into nonsensical trolling.

If a guy is extremely belligerent and/or deemed obviously harmful to the site, we will be less likely to allow a quick comeback. Every case is different.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
BeHappy was banned because he is a duplicate account of someone who said he was going to leave but actually didn't leave.

In regard to your specific question, we take it case-by-case. We have always been pretty lenient in allowing banned members to come back fairly quickly. I've seen several come back within a month. Look at Ninja. We allowed him back multiple times but he always fell back into nonsensical trolling.

If a guy is extremely belligerent and/or deemed obviously harmful to the site, we will be less likely to allow a quick comeback. Every case is different.

"BEDJ" = "BEHAPPY"

Hmmmmmmm I think I figured it out I'm a genius.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ha ha me too. Just when I was thinking I was a sleuth you had to steal my thunder didn't you Malice? lol.
 

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I don't understand this mentality behind leaving a website/forum. People go on like they're leaving some kind of club or something that requires a 40 minute drive to get to. All you need to do is pickup your smart phone and type the web address in.

If you don't fancy posting up then don't. Times change, what was yesterday isn't today. No one can change anything by simply giving up. Either push for what you believe in or don't. :crazy:
 

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adam225 said:
I don't understand this mentality behind leaving a website/forum. People go on like they're leaving some kind of club or something that requires a 40 minute drive to get to. All you need to do is pickup your smart phone and type the web address in.

If you don't fancy posting up then don't. Times change, what was yesterday isn't today. No one can change anything by simply giving up. Either push for what you believe in or don't. :crazy:
People like to feel missed, so when they make these threads stating they are leaving, they secretly hope hordes of people will beg them to stay. When in reality nobody gives a damn. It's like when you leave a job, you never existed. Nobody gives a damn.
 

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Malice said:
People like to feel missed, so when they make these threads stating they are leaving, they secretly hope hordes of people will beg them to stay. When in reality nobody gives a damn. It's like when you leave a job, you never existed. Nobody gives a damn.
Then they come back under a new name.
 

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Pook, Rollo, we summon thee...
Oh re-lax, I haven't abandoned Sosuave and I never will. Being a blog and book author demands a lot of my time, but I haven't forsaken SS.

I'm still a mod here too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Ummmmm.... we know that....

Feeling very relaxed.
 
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