TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Sosuave really wasn't a thing of his past.Atom Smasher said:
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Ah, but it IS a thing of BeHappy's past.
BeHappy's meteoric rise and tragic fall was quite the spectacle.
BeHappy's meteoric rise and tragic fall was quite the spectacle.
Married Buried
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So what's the rule? After you get banned how long do you have to stay away before you can make another name? 2 months, 3 months? I wouldn't know I have never been banned in my life from any site.Atom Smasher said:
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
BeHappy was banned because he is a duplicate account of someone who said he was going to leave but actually didn't leave.
In regard to your specific question, we take it case-by-case. We have always been pretty lenient in allowing banned members to come back fairly quickly. I've seen several come back within a month. Look at Ninja. We allowed him back multiple times but he always fell back into nonsensical trolling.
If a guy is extremely belligerent and/or deemed obviously harmful to the site, we will be less likely to allow a quick comeback. Every case is different.
In regard to your specific question, we take it case-by-case. We have always been pretty lenient in allowing banned members to come back fairly quickly. I've seen several come back within a month. Look at Ninja. We allowed him back multiple times but he always fell back into nonsensical trolling.
If a guy is extremely belligerent and/or deemed obviously harmful to the site, we will be less likely to allow a quick comeback. Every case is different.
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Atom Smasher said:
"BEDJ" = "BEHAPPY"
Hmmmmmmm I think I figured it out I'm a genius.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Ha ha me too. Just when I was thinking I was a sleuth you had to steal my thunder didn't you Malice? lol.
I don't understand this mentality behind leaving a website/forum. People go on like they're leaving some kind of club or something that requires a 40 minute drive to get to. All you need to do is pickup your smart phone and type the web address in.
If you don't fancy posting up then don't. Times change, what was yesterday isn't today. No one can change anything by simply giving up. Either push for what you believe in or don't. :crazy:
If you don't fancy posting up then don't. Times change, what was yesterday isn't today. No one can change anything by simply giving up. Either push for what you believe in or don't. :crazy:
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People like to feel missed, so when they make these threads stating they are leaving, they secretly hope hordes of people will beg them to stay. When in reality nobody gives a damn. It's like when you leave a job, you never existed. Nobody gives a damn.adam225 said:
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Then they come back under a new name.Malice said:
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Oh re-lax, I haven't abandoned Sosuave and I never will. Being a blog and book author demands a lot of my time, but I haven't forsaken SS.
I'm still a mod here too.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Ummmmm.... we know that....
Feeling very relaxed.
Feeling very relaxed.