"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sosuave chat room
- Thread starter BluEyes
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KarmaSutra
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Props to Penkitten.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
http://www.gabbly.com/http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=15
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I'll use it
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Out of curiosity, is there any security for the user accounts?
Last Man Standing
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Hey nerdy blueyes - thanks for putting me on your ignore list!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Pssssttttt.... He can't hear 'ya......Last Man Standing said:
ThunderMaverick
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Hahaha I'll say it!
Last Man Standing said:
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
Last Man Standing said:
I hope I don't get a warning point for that.
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
IRC is old school, not too many people would understand it (c'mon, it's text based). A year or two ago someone had a couple of "SoSuave Nights" on Yahoo that went over pretty well. I'd think that more people are using a Yahoo compatible IM than an IRC client.kreuz said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
they dont offer alot, its free. i can ban troolsFrancisco d'Anconia said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
yahoo wont let me create a room. aim still lets you.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah, penkittens idea. I just saw her thread disappearing down the AE page and thought i'd throw up a couple more. It's a good idea, thanks for starting the chat thing..haven't had time to try it yet though
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
Im amazed at how immature you guys are...A 25 year old and a 44 year old virgin telling an 18 year old kid that he's nerdy. Good job guys.
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
chat is up and running and people are there willing to chat, but its horribly slow
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.