"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Sosuave chat room
- Thread starter BluEyes
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
KarmaSutra
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Props to Penkitten.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
http://www.gabbly.com/http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=15
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I'll use it
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Out of curiosity, is there any security for the user accounts?
Last Man Standing
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Hey nerdy blueyes - thanks for putting me on your ignore list!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Pssssttttt.... He can't hear 'ya......Last Man Standing said:
ThunderMaverick
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Hahaha I'll say it!
Last Man Standing said:
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
Last Man Standing said:
I hope I don't get a warning point for that.
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
IRC is old school, not too many people would understand it (c'mon, it's text based). A year or two ago someone had a couple of "SoSuave Nights" on Yahoo that went over pretty well. I'd think that more people are using a Yahoo compatible IM than an IRC client.kreuz said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
they dont offer alot, its free. i can ban troolsFrancisco d'Anconia said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
yahoo wont let me create a room. aim still lets you.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah, penkittens idea. I just saw her thread disappearing down the AE page and thought i'd throw up a couple more. It's a good idea, thanks for starting the chat thing..haven't had time to try it yet though
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
Im amazed at how immature you guys are...A 25 year old and a 44 year old virgin telling an 18 year old kid that he's nerdy. Good job guys.
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
chat is up and running and people are there willing to chat, but its horribly slow
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.