Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Sosuave chat room
- Thread starter BluEyes
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
KarmaSutra
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Props to Penkitten.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
http://www.gabbly.com/http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=15
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I'll use it
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Out of curiosity, is there any security for the user accounts?
Last Man Standing
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Hey nerdy blueyes - thanks for putting me on your ignore list!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Pssssttttt.... He can't hear 'ya......Last Man Standing said:
ThunderMaverick
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Hahaha I'll say it!
Last Man Standing said:
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
Last Man Standing said:
I hope I don't get a warning point for that.
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
IRC is old school, not too many people would understand it (c'mon, it's text based). A year or two ago someone had a couple of "SoSuave Nights" on Yahoo that went over pretty well. I'd think that more people are using a Yahoo compatible IM than an IRC client.kreuz said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
they dont offer alot, its free. i can ban troolsFrancisco d'Anconia said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
yahoo wont let me create a room. aim still lets you.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah, penkittens idea. I just saw her thread disappearing down the AE page and thought i'd throw up a couple more. It's a good idea, thanks for starting the chat thing..haven't had time to try it yet though
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
Im amazed at how immature you guys are...A 25 year old and a 44 year old virgin telling an 18 year old kid that he's nerdy. Good job guys.
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
chat is up and running and people are there willing to chat, but its horribly slow
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.