"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Sosuave chat room
- Thread starter BluEyes
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
KarmaSutra
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Props to Penkitten.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
The chatroom is her idea and implementation.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
http://www.gabbly.com/http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=15
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
it's been talked about many times....and it never really took off.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I'll use it
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Out of curiosity, is there any security for the user accounts?
Last Man Standing
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Hey nerdy blueyes - thanks for putting me on your ignore list!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
And no, I don't want to chat with 16 year old children to satisfy your voyeurism temdencies!!!!!!!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Pssssttttt.... He can't hear 'ya......Last Man Standing said:
ThunderMaverick
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Hahaha I'll say it!
Last Man Standing said:
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
Last Man Standing said:
I hope I don't get a warning point for that.
I'll never do that again! Promise!
Edit: Maybe the mods should sticky this thread so people don't forget it?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
IRC is old school, not too many people would understand it (c'mon, it's text based). A year or two ago someone had a couple of "SoSuave Nights" on Yahoo that went over pretty well. I'd think that more people are using a Yahoo compatible IM than an IRC client.kreuz said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
they dont offer alot, its free. i can ban troolsFrancisco d'Anconia said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
yahoo wont let me create a room. aim still lets you.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah, penkittens idea. I just saw her thread disappearing down the AE page and thought i'd throw up a couple more. It's a good idea, thanks for starting the chat thing..haven't had time to try it yet though
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
Im amazed at how immature you guys are...A 25 year old and a 44 year old virgin telling an 18 year old kid that he's nerdy. Good job guys.
by the way thundermaverick, welcome to the ignore list. enjoy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
chat is up and running and people are there willing to chat, but its horribly slow
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.