"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So Suave Website and Don Juan Forum History

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I was wondering about the history of this website and discussion forum. How did it come to be? Did it spring forth from another forum? Who were the original posters? Where are the first posts? Is there anywhere I can learn the history of the website and the concept that led to the start of the forum.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Pook is arguably the most famous poster of the site due to his great posts basically.

Another old time reg with a really great topic was named Diesel.

Thats pretty much all I know but you can check their post histories for some good information.
 

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i thought nss was the most famous poster on this site.
 

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haha! I remember the tan site! I first looked at this site at the end of 2001, but I was too chicken to post anything until 2003. Since then, it's been sparse for my post output, but what a great resource it has been. Now it's overloaded! I feel like I should be sitting on a front porch in a rocking chair or something....
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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penkitten said:
i thought nss was the most famous poster on this site.
Neanderthal SuperSolider was a mod who requested that allen just ban him.
 

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Hey now, don't forget Anti-Dump and Red-XL.
 

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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God, I'm trying to remember what chick-site started the first forum war. I remember it involved Sir_Chance-A-Lot, Trickynick, and even brought out Pook to comment quite a few times.

Was that part of the first troll thing? Linky don't worky so my memory jog isn't working. Maybe it just needs a nicotine kick-start.
 

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Big-J said:
God, I'm trying to remember what chick-site started the first forum war. I remember it involved Sir_Chance-A-Lot, Trickynick, and even brought out Pook to comment quite a few times.

Was that part of the first troll thing? Linky don't worky so my memory jog isn't working. Maybe it just needs a nicotine kick-start.
girlproblems.com 1st and lame
badgirlswirl.com 2nd and heated
comes to my memory
 

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Big-J said:
I think it's funny that the first post is titled "I'm under 21 and my penis is broken"

God, I'm trying to remember what chick-site started the first forum war.
Yeah, it was definately girlproblems.com. They hated us, we hated them. Some posters from here (me included) went over there to try and save a few AFCs. I don't think it worked though :)
 

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Desdinova said:
I think it's funny that the first post is titled "I'm under 21 and my penis is broken"


Yeah, it was definately girlproblems.com. They hated us, we hated them. Some posters from here (me included) went over there to try and save a few AFCs. I don't think it worked though :)
I've heard about this war between this site and girlproblems. Wish I was there to see it.:D
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BlackJackal said:
I've heard about this war between this site and girlproblems. Wish I was there to see it.:D
i was here, and the gp.com stuff was not alot to write home about.
the BIG FLAME was with the swirl girls, where i even had to go over there and register for an account to go defend the honor of some members here.
ask sirchancalot for further details.
 

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penkitten said:
i was here, and the gp.com stuff was not alot to write home about.
the BIG FLAME was with the swirl girls, where i even had to go over there and register for an account to go defend the honor of some members here.
ask sirchancalot for further details.
Sounded like a fun time to be honest. If they start another war, I'd be here.
 

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BlackJackal said:
Sounded like a fun time to be honest. If they start another war, I'd be here.
do they even still have a site?
i dont think so.
 

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Bad girl swirl? Yes, it still exist just fine. The other one... I need to ask... does that still exist anymore?
 

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Desdinova said:
I think it's funny that the first post is titled "I'm under 21 and my penis is broken"


Yeah, it was definately girlproblems.com. They hated us, we hated them. Some posters from here (me included) went over there to try and save a few AFCs. I don't think it worked though :)

Actually now that Penkitten mentioned it, it was badgirlswirl.com, I think the GP.com came after diesel went to invade their territory with his unique way of giving advice. Albeit there could have been two gp.com incidents. I think Deep Dish went over to the forum that replaced gp.com something like datingissues/datingproblems.net or something. I was a guilty party over there too Desinova, so your not alone :D.


penkitten said:
i was here, and the gp.com stuff was not alot to write home about.
the BIG FLAME was with the swirl girls, where i even had to go over there and register for an account to go defend the honor of some members here.
ask sirchancalot for further details.
Chance reamed them out daily for a while overthere. That war was always a fun read IMO.

GP.com went to hell, moved to a different address and died.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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