SILENCE and DISTANCE

[Brassneck]

saying no to a date without a counter-offer

Low interest rather than disrespect, alas I’m being a touch pedantic. He does say it’s done covertly which makes sense. Yeah it’s a great post for sure from Guru, Ive saved it.

Haven't been here long but you learn pretty fast the members, both past & present, that possess a lot of wisdom.

 

[Brassneck]

@Glassguy ain’t taking no sh#t as always!

 

[Aesthetix29]

What about coming across as butthurt ?

 

[Glassguy]

What about coming across as butthurt ?

How about coming across as a real man that has other women at his disposal and will walk rather than deal with disrespectful behavior? And then use silence and distance when need be.

Its not about just punishment for bad behavior. That is a passive aggressive approach. Do men of high value waste their time pouting around trying to punish a chick for bad behavior? Hell no......Its even more so about not having the time or desire to put up with bullsh!t. I know that I'm not going to stick around for it. I'll go find stuff to do that I like doing either with another chick, on my own or with friends. There is nothing butthurt about that.

That's the golden ticket to all of this.

 

[Aesthetix29]

How about coming across as a real man that has other women at his disposal and will walk rather than deal with disrespectful behavior? And then use silence and distance when need be.

Its not about just punishment for bad behavior. That is a passive aggressive approach. Do men of high value waste their time pouting around trying to punish a chick for bad behavior? Hell no......Its even more so about not having the time or desire to put up with bullsh!t. I know that I'm not going to stick around for it. I'll go find stuff to do that I like doing either with another chick, on my own or with friends. There is nothing butthurt about that.

That's the golden ticket to all of this.

Great explanation! Makes total sense when you put it like that.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How about coming across as a real man that has other women at his disposal and will walk rather than deal with disrespectful behavior? And then use silence and distance when need be.

Its not about just punishment for bad behavior. That is a passive aggressive approach. Do men of high value waste their time pouting around trying to punish a chick for bad behavior? Hell no......Its even more so about not having the time or desire to put up with bullsh!t. I know that I'm not going to stick around for it. I'll go find stuff to do that I like doing either with another chick, on my own or with friends. There is nothing butthurt about that.

That's the golden ticket to all of this.

Another golden vajajay

 

[soulforge]

How about coming across as a real man that has other women at his disposal and will walk rather than deal with disrespectful behavior? And then use silence and distance when need be.

Its not about just punishment for bad behavior. That is a passive aggressive approach. Do men of high value waste their time pouting around trying to punish a chick for bad behavior? Hell no......Its even more so about not having the time or desire to put up with bullsh!t. I know that I'm not going to stick around for it. I'll go find stuff to do that I like doing either with another chick, on my own or with friends. There is nothing butthurt about that.

That's the golden ticket to all of this.

Butt Hurt? I currently have a situation where I am applying silence & distance with a chick in my workplace.

Several flakes on her part, getting to the point of having sex became this huge obstacle with her.. I really felt an undertone of disrespect & lack of appreciation of my time. So I applied S&D and I don't care about wether she perceives it as Butt hurt.

I still smile & say hello when she sees me at work.. Other than that it's complete S&D

I don't have time for that kinda Bvll****.. If my time & my company isn't valued, then you get ZERO attention from me.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Wait, so this thread isn't about gags and cannons?

 

[inquisitor]

Know any women without any issues ?

Every women has issues, and it changes weekly.

Can we publish a weekly brochure for this?

 

[BeExcellent]

A bump from the old lady.

 

[Solomon]

I miss Guru the guy was a stud, anyone wanna learn the mindset of a guy who has high self-respect and deals with top tier women
Guru is the guy to read

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Girl declines with no counteroffer or changes the subject in response to your date offer. Silence and disappearance.

If once in a blue moon, your gut is telling you to make an exception with one of these, maybe there is a good reason for that. That´s all I can really add to the opening post. Something as simple as "Hey no problem. Let me know when x,y,z" Then after you send that text you leave the ball in her court and go all "silence and distance" Thats a particular of course; on generals I agree with most (if not all) of the opening post.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

If once in a blue moon, your gut is telling you to make an exception with one of these, maybe there is a good reason for that. That´s all I can really add to the opening post. Something as simple as "Hey no problem. Let me know when x,y,z" Then after you send that text you leave the ball in her court and go all "silence and distance" Thats a particular of course; on generals I agree with most (if not all) of the opening post.

100%.

I went on a great Tinder first date with a girl. We set up the second date & she flaked/ghosted me. I was going to Next her. However, she was very young, so, about two weeks later I recontacted her. It worked out. She became my GF.

 

[Pumax]

Silence and distance are not to be confused with avoiding clear communication but rather to be used only when a girl commits an act that is unmistakably tasteless or disrespectful to any observer

Any reparation (assuming the disrespect was not so great) she makes will be felt and imbued in her psyche greater than any overt words you could possibly deliver.

If there are cases in which you would use clear communication and instead silence and distance, what are they?

Let us know how communicating and closeness with women who blatantly disrespect you works out for you.

Also, you don't really want someone like that in your life.
So the question becomes more about whether you're playing with someone damaged because it's easy and you enjoy doing it, rather than looking for a better partner.


The way we behave around people automatically attracts a type of partner with that same behavioral pattern.

Are you telling me that a good woman had a papawho behaved this way, giving her "silence and distance"?


She will only respect you because her father gave her silence and distance, rather than clear, honest communication..
Most women who respond positively to silence and distance had a male guide who did not help calm her emotions and make her behaviors safe, but rather rewarded the fact that she had behaved badly, giving her silence, and when she returned, she gave him the treat because she had behaved well.
These are women who will do a lot of tests, because they haven't had a male guide confident enough to take the trouble to explain things

WOMEN prefer this

I understand that it works, but if you mean all women, that's a generalization.

 

[Rainman4707]

Wow, the amount of posters on this thread that are now banned.

 

[Barrister]

Wow, the amount of posters on this thread that are now banned.

And the number of great posters who were here even a few years ago no longer active. Guru being one of them but not the only one.