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100% on the money hereSilence and distance allow you to gauge her emotional investment because if she doesn’t reach out to you, she merits no further engagement.
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100% on the money hereSilence and distance allow you to gauge her emotional investment because if she doesn’t reach out to you, she merits no further engagement.
Then what is the benefits of being unreactive to provocations ?Haha. It would take a lot to get me to react. A woman is even less likely.
First let me say that everything @guru1000 posted it correct.Absolutely, silence and distance should be an unconscious process.
You ask a wise question.Haha.
Aside to this, lemme ask you and everyone else a serious question, would u consider urself to be a man who is easily triggered?
If no, what's the benefit?
If yes, what's the benefit?
Solid post. It's called Boundaries. Boundaries are not only powerful but healthy.The strongest weapon in your artillery is knowing when and how to apply silence and distance (and in some cases disappearance).
Girl flakes on a date. Silence and disappearance.
Girl declines with no counteroffer or changes the subject in response to your date offer. Silence and disappearance.
Girl accuses you of using her as a FB or pushes for exclusivity. Silence and distance.
Girl gives you an inappropriate attitude, a snide or disrespectful remark. Silence and distance.
I cannot tell you how the number of instances I have experienced of women backpedaling in the above contexts following my employing silence and distance/disappearance.
In any social situation you find yourself in, when a girl oversteps her bounds, silence and distance/disappearance, if employed correctly, will tip the frame into your favor assuming there is just enough interest on her end.
You will not lose frame by employing silence and distance/disappearance, but you can lose frame by reacting or by responding incorrectly.
Silence and distance create room for her imagination to ignite, engage her fight or flight response, and incite her second-guessing and backpedaling.
Silence and distance forge “the” frame in your favor and set the precedence that you WILL walk away if you are not content with her behavior.
Silence and distance send the message that you are accepting of only her best behavior and if she has a grievance to raise the issue overtly for discussion as opposed to undermining you.
Silence and distance amplify attraction, as attraction is built not in the time spent together, but in time spent apart.
Silence and distance allow you to gauge her emotional investment because if she doesn’t reach out to you, she merits no further engagement.
Silence and distance set boundaries covertly, so that she doesn’t feel ordered and resentful that you are controlling/commanding her as she might by overt boundaries.
Silence and distance are not game playing. You are responding covertly to behavior you deem unfitting which sends the message louder and clearer than any possible overt response.
Silence and distance are not to be confused with avoiding clear communication but rather to be used only when a girl commits an act that is unmistakably tasteless or disrespectful to any observer.
Silence and distance, in the right context, are the single most powerful act you can commit in your relations with women.
Thus why she keeps coming back. Its a shame that 99% of men dont understand how this works, but its great for the 1% of us that do and actually do it.I ALWAYS say no... I'm the only man in her life that tells her NO.
Pretty simple. And you know the 'takers' or 'users' excuses. "You did all that for me, because you expected xyz out of me". "I don't have to do anything for you just because you did xyz for me". "you want me to owe you".The point of all this, is why be interested in someone who is not interested in you? Why bother talking to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Why do things for people who won't do them for you? Pretty simple.
Yes you used to be, I remembered it well and I also remembered that you're changed, maybe its little, maybe just abit, or maybe even a tiny wee bit BUT what most people don't realise is that a mindshift has taken place and it can only cascade.You ask a wise question.
I do not, though I used to be moreso and it was something I worked on. It's not the self that is triggered, but the ego, because the ego feeds on conflict and disparity.
The benefit is simple. Inner peace. Once you have gained 100% self acceptance, you cannot be drawn into a mindless argument (or worse) with someone who seeks to "trigger" you. There can be no trigger. They simply are, and so are you. The world is a mess because men have allowed their egos to be triggered, because they believe they owed someone a verbal reaction.
Very good.Having an adverse reaction will trigger physiological responses. It cascades. Being non reactive actually keeps the analytical mind in place as well as one’s masculinity.
People push buttons in an effort to create an effect. Creation of an effect. It’s a manipulation. A woman gauges your responses to adversity and self worth.
At least this is what is believed.
I have a different take in this. If she is trying to prompt a negative response, it means she’s in the second position. Behind me. Since when does the master give credence to the deficiencies of the subordinate? By reacting to her silliness a man kneels to her supposed superiority.
It’s a game. Men are manipulated or cowed into second position by the simplest of manipulations.
Let’s put it into perspective. A man with all his amazing faculties and potentials, gets manipulated into the second position by a woman with the simplest of purposely directed statements and questions.
In effect, by reacting, the hunter, killer, protector, creator, infinite capacity man is reduced to a shell. The oddity is that all those things protect and benefit her, she tries circumvent it.
Men can get better at this. They impulsively answer or make statements to her impulses by answering to her actions, angrily comments or even attacks. These are impulsive and quite feminine. Who says a man has to say anything? Even some forms of banter are designed to manipulate a man into the second position.
My go to response is to say nothing. There’s are a thousand words in that. More importantly, it is looking down your nose at her silly positioning attempts. It’s a form of dismissal. Some questions you can answer and some you do not.
The reason a woman will default to communication and even complain that you don’t communicate enough is that communication is her most valuable tool of manipulation in the pursuit of support and resource extraction. It is also the make/break point for a man.
Ask any woman why she would rather work for a man than a woman for a boss. Another woman is aware of the tactics. Very hard to manage the situation.
If the male boss is masculine she will feel safer under him. If he isn’t, she knows that she can manipulate him to her advantage. Both are a win. She can make a comment about Betty and the weak boss man will be off and running to admonish Betty or at least be less open to Betty and more open to her in the future. It’s a game.
When in doubt. Shut your mouth. Some men think they’ve had the most amazing conversation with a woman and wonders why she ghosts him despite the fact that he was red-pilled and supposedly did everything right. The reason she ghosted him is because the entire conversation was a manipulation from the start. There is NO cure for this except masculinity. You can drill it and talk about it till the cows come home but it won’t make any difference. You have too many feminine traits and your thinking is still feminine. Seizing command is a matter of always being in command from the start by default. You don’t have to seize anything if you already are.
I'd like to think not. Nobody's perfect of course. When I feel a gut reaction (like I'm being insulted etc.) I try to pause and see if it's my ego talking. Then - I listen, dismiss it, and react in the way that's from my true self. It's a glorious skill to have. What I've learned is the ego is built for survival, which is why it's often perceiving "threats." It's up to me to accept or dismiss them as legitimate.Let me ask u another question, aside to the answers u hv given, if you know exactly who u r, know exactly what you're capable off and without any hidden pretensions (that means the frame that i project is not fake), will you be easily insulted or triggered?
If it's not true then of course its not real and easily dismissed.I'd like to think not. Nobody's perfect of course. When I feel a gut reaction (like I'm being insulted etc.) I try to pause and see if it's my ego talking. Then - I listen, dismiss it, and react in the way that's from my true self. It's a glorious skill to have. What I've learned is the ego is built for survival, which is why it's often perceiving "threats." It's up to me to accept or dismiss them as legitimate.
This is why I tell people on these boards that I haven't endured a "shyt test" in many, many moons. They're not real.
I said that shyt tests aren't real. Nothing needs to be kept hidden. Something can be as true as the day is long and that is fine - it's irrelevant. If you are seeking to hide the truth then you are cheating yourself. Why should the truth insult you? Why would you avoid it?If it's not true then of course its not real and easily dismissed.
If it's true and yet wished to be kept hidden then it becomes an insult, since the frame projected to society will crumble, am I wrong ?
Shiet test r real and very much needed by both men and women alike.I said that shyt tests aren't real. Nothing needs to be kept hidden. Something can be as true as the day is long and that is fine - it's irrelevant. If you are seeking to hide the truth then you are cheating yourself. Why should the truth insult you? Why would you avoid it?
I am not talking about personality-driven techniques - those may be useful but that's not what I mean here. Your personality type is irrelevant as well. What I refer to is simply being - and observing. Free your mind of the concepts of techniques and mindsets. There's no need for parlor tricks when you are in the present and the present is in you.
I don't deny you anything, Spaz. Your truth is yours to do with what you like. If we disagree on some things, so be it, but you've got to use what works best for you, not simply what I tell you.Do u deny this ?
If u r not at the same level (or higher) then ur opponent (or even love ones), then you won't be able to see through them.I don't deny you anything, Spaz. Your truth is yours to do with what you like. If we disagree on some things, so be it, but you've got to use what works best for you, not simply what I tell you.
I can only speak from my experience. Personally I haven't endured a shyt test in ages, probably because I don't care. And there's no reason for the truth to insult me. It simply is...or it isn't. These things aren't real - unless you make it so. Feel free to provide an example of a shyt test someone gave you and I'll tell you why it's stupid and irrelevant.
(Your example of the porn actress is simply an example of someone not being true to herself and predicating her identity on lies. This is why she is insulted by the truth. It is her choice.)
As for silence and distance, I forgot that was the title of this thread... Yeah, anyone can do it, it's not hard. It's not even a "technique." It's a power provided free to every person. It's funny that people believe it's harder to be quiet than to speak, or to walk away than to associate. Now, perhaps people need methods to break habits, that's commendable, but not my area of expertise.
If you still have opponents, then you haven't gotten to the level I'm operating on. Your statement is true, but it is rudimentary.If u r not at the same level (or higher) then ur opponent (or even love ones), then you won't be able to see through them.
Comes down to who is gonna cave first. You can't take something away they don't care about...A great thread guys, definitely see the usefulness of Silence & Distance as a tool.
I had a thought... this is passive aggressive behaviour right? How would this pan out on a passive aggressive woman? Stalemate?
Passive-aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them. There's a disconnect between what a passive-aggressive person says and what he or she does.
For example, a passive-aggressive person might appear to agree — perhaps even enthusiastically — with another person's request. Rather than complying with the request, however, he or she might express anger or resentment by failing to follow through or missing deadlines.
Specific signs of passive-aggressive behavior include:
- Resentment and opposition to the demands of others
- Procrastination and intentional mistakes in response to others' demands
- Cynical, sullen or hostile attitude
- Frequent complaints about feeling underappreciated or cheated
But S&D is expressing displeasure in an indirect way. Not against it though, clearly works, but I think it’s a form of PA.but thinking about it PA is more of expressing displeasure in an indirect way. S&D is just an absence of communication
S&D is taking the toy away from the bratty child and putting it where they can't see it. They learn when they pout the toy dissappears.But S&D is expressing displeasure in an indirect way. Not against it though, clearly works, but I think it’s a form of PA.