"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should I ever tell her about my kid and my Open Releationship?

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Hey guys,

I will meet a 22-year-old one and I thought before we meet each other and I start building deep comfort (telling about myselft etc) should I be completely authentic and tell her about my life partner or not?

What were your experiences?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You already asked the same question in the other thread and got answers. I mean you are bringing them home to your kid and wife so wouldn't you think it's kinda necessary?
 

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You already asked the same question in the other thread and got answers. I mean you are bringing them home to your kid and wife so wouldn't you think it's kinda necessary?
İ don't bring her home. That question (last week) was more about the frame.

Right now i asked about a specific situation which i will handle and get confident with.

Thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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İ don't bring her home. That question (last week) was more about the frame.

Right now i asked about a specific situation which i will handle and get confident with.

Thanks
Frame is everything. You don’t fix frame problems in a week.

You can say or do anything with the right frame. I would argue saying less about things is better than saying more.
 

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I am unfamiliar with your other thread - but considering you are in an open relationship with a child from that relationship, this sounds like it is just a fling with this 22 year old. Why say anything at all about anything else? I am guessing this is purely for sex. Just have fun with it and keep things light. If you start getting heavy with this 22 year old she likely bolts anyway.
 
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