Charm&Style
Master Don Juan
After a heavy work out do any of you go in the sauna...
what are the benefits anyways?
what are the benefits anyways?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Charm&Style said:ya cold water makes my shambol go in
:nervous:
Skilla_Staz said:Yeah, I look like a girl after a cold shower. If you catch my drift. :cheer:
Sitting in a hot, steamy room with a bunch of half-naked men? If you're homosexual there are plenty of benefits - else get the heck out of the gym right after your workout as there's a large meal at home that requires your immediate attention.Charm&Style said:After a heavy work out do any of you go in the sauna...
what are the benefits anyways?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
It seems your mind is on the men in the sauna and not on the relaxation that you yourself get from it. I wonder why you even signed up for a gym that has a sauna? Perhaps so that you could peek at the half-naked men in the sauna to please your heterosexual curiosities? The big joke is that you act like you've never seen another man naked before. We all get changed in the same locker-room and people in the locker-room are completely naked when they get changed, take a shower, etc. You got major insecurities.musclyjerk said:Sitting in a hot, steamy room with a bunch of half-naked men? If you're homosexual there are plenty of benefits - else get the heck out of the gym right after your workout as there's a large meal at home that requires your immediate attention.
Leave the sauna to the weenies.
Pete
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.