Charm&Style
Master Don Juan
After a heavy work out do any of you go in the sauna...
what are the benefits anyways?
what are the benefits anyways?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Charm&Style said:ya cold water makes my shambol go in
:nervous:
Skilla_Staz said:Yeah, I look like a girl after a cold shower. If you catch my drift. :cheer:
Sitting in a hot, steamy room with a bunch of half-naked men? If you're homosexual there are plenty of benefits - else get the heck out of the gym right after your workout as there's a large meal at home that requires your immediate attention.Charm&Style said:After a heavy work out do any of you go in the sauna...
what are the benefits anyways?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It seems your mind is on the men in the sauna and not on the relaxation that you yourself get from it. I wonder why you even signed up for a gym that has a sauna? Perhaps so that you could peek at the half-naked men in the sauna to please your heterosexual curiosities? The big joke is that you act like you've never seen another man naked before. We all get changed in the same locker-room and people in the locker-room are completely naked when they get changed, take a shower, etc. You got major insecurities.musclyjerk said:Sitting in a hot, steamy room with a bunch of half-naked men? If you're homosexual there are plenty of benefits - else get the heck out of the gym right after your workout as there's a large meal at home that requires your immediate attention.
Leave the sauna to the weenies.
Pete
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.