She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well aren't you a tricky little girl.Originally posted by MsThang
Just because the website belongs to her doesn't mean it's me. I won't tell you yet because I want you to be honest(But I will, I promise.)
Originally posted by Unbridled_1
Jake,
Yes she is attractive in that picture, but it's only her PROFILE. If you get a straight ahead picture, she's got a somewhat weird face (her cheeks are too big). Check this one out:
http://community.webshots.com/photo/181318665/181318665bZNiww
Originally posted by MsThang
Just because the website belongs to her doesn't mean it's me. I won't tell you yet because I want you to be honest(But I will, I promise.)
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Nice job, and there we have it. What was your username before?Originally posted by Helter Skelter
God I must be bored to reply to this, but I saw Ms Thang's name.
Someone I actually remember from the good ole days.
I seem to remember her being a red head.
My guess is the second from the right.
Could be a trick question, maybe it's none of them.
She is or was a red head that's all I remember.
I think it's time for dinner. later
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You're not too shabby, MsThang.Originally posted by MsThang
Nice job, and there we have it.
Oh, right, I see how it is.Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
You're not too shabby, MsThang.
But I've got penkitten now. You'll have to settle for one of the other guys.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
yayOriginally posted by Giovanni Casanova
But I've got penkitten now.![]()
Dude! That b!tch-beast in the pic looks pretty similar to Jariel's mom. I gave her the sausage somethin fierce.Originally posted by MsThang
Oh, right, I see how it is.Excuse me a minute. *sniff*
In any case, because you were all such good sports here is a real picture of me:
Don't drool too hard, guys, I'm taken...
Yowza....Originally posted by Unbridled_1
http://community.webshots.com/photo/181318665/181318665bZNiww
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.