"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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darksprezzatura

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Maybe it's due to being a sociopath but one of the things which bothers me is paranoia.

Today I scored for the first time with a girl on the fourth date.

Immediately after sex I had this repulsion and disgust along with a paranoid feeling that she'd try to screw me over or try to lock me down or threaten me.

I start feeling like she'll use her parents to fvck me over, or cry rape or some crap like that and I feel like running away from her, leading the women to chase me.

It's like an automatic game that makes women want me more but it's not something I want to feel.

When I have sex with a woman for the first time, I start feeling like I OWE HER SOMETHING or I'm indebted which she can use against me.

This is why I feel like always documenting consent beforehand which I know is a beta move.

I'm not sure if it's some kind of AFC behaviour, but anyone felt something like that? Anyone who can shed some light? I don't want to go to a therapist about this BS.

Thank you guys. Please do help if you can.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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lizardking82

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Probably you have a feeling of distrust towards your mother. Can you confirm that?
 

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Reminds me of this....

The Kinks "Destroyer" (with lyrics).... Paranoia, the destroyer....

 

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Maybe it's due to being a sociopath but one of the things which bothers me is paranoia.

Today I scored for the first time with a girl on the fourth date.

Immediately after sex I had this repulsion and disgust along with a paranoid feeling that she'd try to screw me over or try to lock me down or threaten me.

I start feeling like she'll use her parents to fvck me over, or cry rape or some crap like that and I feel like running away from her, leading the women to chase me.

It's like an automatic game that makes women want me more but it's not something I want to feel.

When I have sex with a woman for the first time, I start feeling like I OWE HER SOMETHING or I'm indebted which she can use against me.

This is why I feel like always documenting consent beforehand which I know is a beta move.

I'm not sure if it's some kind of AFC behaviour, but anyone felt something like that? Anyone who can shed some light? I don't want to go to a therapist about this BS.

Thank you guys. Please do help if you can.
I have a background in psychology. I don't blame for feeling paranoid that women will screw them over because a lot of women in this third-wave of feminists who bash man, anything is possible, especially when the law isn't on your side. It may be social anxiety or generalized anxiety disorder. Check in with a therapist and take steps to make sure you're using the best condoms available to avoid impregnating a woman.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You're projecting weird vibes from your poor diet onto your natural reaction of Testosterone (which makes you want to go far and wide and leave her to spread your seed), combined with the fact you didn't satisfy her (or you'd be mesmerized by her Oxytocin, the cuddle/bonding chemical).
 

darksprezzatura

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Probably you have a feeling of distrust towards your mother. Can you confirm that?
Yes. But it's not just her. I can't seem to trust anyone completely except myself. She seems to love me but she possibly has a personality disorder too. Maybe I'm projecting my own self on other people.
You're projecting weird vibes from your poor diet onto your natural reaction of Testosterone (which makes you want to go far and wide and leave her to spread your seed), combined with the fact you didn't satisfy her (or you'd be mesmerized by her Oxytocin, the cuddle/bonding chemical).
Even when she screamed my name for over an hour, texted me first that she had a great time. Combine this with making a overt feminist suck c0ck. I'm pretty sure she was satisfied, even if she wasn't I did my best. Fvck what she thinks.

I can't release OXT, it's sad that I can't feel those happy trust feelings people normally feel.
That's what my psychiatrist told me when I got diagnosed.

I think you are right, a good diet and an intense fitness routine would help.
 

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Just get the nut, treat er like chit.. and run.

Read poons posts..

Girls want the best genes, and need support. These days they get that from multiple sources.

Sounds like you are playing a bit of a provider male role here..

No one owes you chit.. you don't owe anyone else nothing.

Best sex is always win win..

Betas bargain and manipulate to get there needs met.

Alph dcks shamelessly knock any tail up..

Well bread djs are leaders who provide value and good fortune to there friends/family/fbuddy's.

Ehh idk
 
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darksprezzatura

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I tend to sometimes start devaluing women after the initial chase.

That can be looked at through a psychology frame of "sociopath/bpd/npd/hpd/" or whatever. But I don't think that's necessarily all it is.

I think there is a natural element of testosterone pushing you away from comfort, and towards chasing others.
I think you and Neil are right, maybe I'm rationalising testosterone by negative self talk.
Meditation, fitness and a good diet seems to be the answer. Thank you.
 
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