:crackup:blueguy said:emotionally
Uh, if a family is leaning on a 13-yo girl for "emotional support," something is horribly, HORRIBLY wrong in the state of Denmark...
Krist, I might as well start asking a 12-yo emo boy for advice on life!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
:crackup:blueguy said:emotionally
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Good point. Perhaps emotional stability is best measured in levels rather than being black or white. The Emotionally damaged woman I referred to was pretty nasty under the nice, friendly 0utward appearance - incredible mood swings and violent. It's quite possible that the self-proclaimed virgin I referred to was actually more emotionally stable, even if she was controlling and pushy. A good Don Juan can put an end to a woman's behavior problems toward him, but I was not one at that time.Des, I'd question emotional stability. Is a controlling, verbally abusive person in 'control' even if they're religious?
Oh yeah. Emotional suppost counts for ALOT! Good thing you told me this.[/sarcasm]blueguy said:emotionally
I was being sarcastic because the whole notion of your parents relying on their 13year old kid for emotional support sounds stupid.blueguy said:I'm glad to hear that you guys were raised in households where your parents didn't give a crap about you. There needs to be more of this.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.