:crackup:blueguy said:emotionally
Uh, if a family is leaning on a 13-yo girl for "emotional support," something is horribly, HORRIBLY wrong in the state of Denmark...
Krist, I might as well start asking a 12-yo emo boy for advice on life!
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
:crackup:blueguy said:emotionally
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Good point. Perhaps emotional stability is best measured in levels rather than being black or white. The Emotionally damaged woman I referred to was pretty nasty under the nice, friendly 0utward appearance - incredible mood swings and violent. It's quite possible that the self-proclaimed virgin I referred to was actually more emotionally stable, even if she was controlling and pushy. A good Don Juan can put an end to a woman's behavior problems toward him, but I was not one at that time.Des, I'd question emotional stability. Is a controlling, verbally abusive person in 'control' even if they're religious?
Oh yeah. Emotional suppost counts for ALOT! Good thing you told me this.[/sarcasm]blueguy said:emotionally
I was being sarcastic because the whole notion of your parents relying on their 13year old kid for emotional support sounds stupid.blueguy said:I'm glad to hear that you guys were raised in households where your parents didn't give a crap about you. There needs to be more of this.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.