:crackup:blueguy said:emotionally
Uh, if a family is leaning on a 13-yo girl for "emotional support," something is horribly, HORRIBLY wrong in the state of Denmark...
Krist, I might as well start asking a 12-yo emo boy for advice on life!
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
:crackup:blueguy said:emotionally
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Good point. Perhaps emotional stability is best measured in levels rather than being black or white. The Emotionally damaged woman I referred to was pretty nasty under the nice, friendly 0utward appearance - incredible mood swings and violent. It's quite possible that the self-proclaimed virgin I referred to was actually more emotionally stable, even if she was controlling and pushy. A good Don Juan can put an end to a woman's behavior problems toward him, but I was not one at that time.Des, I'd question emotional stability. Is a controlling, verbally abusive person in 'control' even if they're religious?
Oh yeah. Emotional suppost counts for ALOT! Good thing you told me this.[/sarcasm]blueguy said:emotionally
I was being sarcastic because the whole notion of your parents relying on their 13year old kid for emotional support sounds stupid.blueguy said:I'm glad to hear that you guys were raised in households where your parents didn't give a crap about you. There needs to be more of this.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.