"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PHP, MySQL on the back-end, see:
 

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The one where you can't search any three letter word because it's deemed "too common" lmao.

Want to search "FDS"? Lol nope.
 

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The one where you can't search any three letter word because it's deemed "too common" lmao.

Want to search "FDS"? Lol nope.
It’s the default search engine that ships with the forum software, it’s pretty weak.

However, as I have mentioned many times you can use google’s “site:” tag to limit your Google search to this site, thusly:

If Google is your default search engine in your url location bar type:

site http://www.sosuave.net/forums “<quoted search terms>”

if not go to google.com and type it in the search box.

And hit ENTER.

and you’ll get the results you want @BillyPilgrim
 
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It’s the default search engine that ships with the forum software, it’s pretty weak.

However, as I have mentioned many times you can use google’s “site:” tag to limit your Google search to this site, thusly:

If Google is your default search engine in your url location bar type:

site://www.sosuave.net/forums <search terms>

if not go to google.com and type it in the search box.

And hit ENTER.

and you’ll get the results you want @BillyPilgrim
I am familiar with this, but even this method has pretty poor results. I spent about 20 minutes trying to find the "post a pic of a 10" thread on google and couldn't find it. Seems like many threads aren't even indexed.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well searches are literal, search engines have no comprehension they can find stuff, but searching for “fruit” instead of say “oranges” is kinda futile. ;)

An LLM enhanced search engine might be able to understand the “spirit” of your search in the future, I’ve read all the engines are considering this.

The reason LLM searches are so powerful is that they come up with alternate search terms and run hundreds of these in parallel and choose the most relevant to compute the answers as best they can.

I’ve been tempted to put up an LLM and have it learn from SoSuave exclusively, that would be utterly hilarious to play with given some of the whacky stuff that’s been posted over the years.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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