Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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@logicallefty are you doing alright? I hope you have gotten your legal bases covered and are ready to amp up the Machiavellian Dark Triad inside of you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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@CollegeMan22 @Hacker Thanks fellas. divorce is all over with and I moved from my home state of Illinois down to Florida, which I was really planning to do anyway eventually, with her, even before the divorce. Financially I got to keep all my big assets. I had to pay her a little bit of cash, but nothing got done with my 401k or any of that. I have slept with 4 women since the divorce, one ex and three new. dating a Puerto Rican woman right now, and really having a good time with her. Thanks again for following up.
 

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Not to $hit on you or anything cause we all are surviving in here, but remember this post from "Is it okay for females to have male friends?" She didn't need to go out on 1x1 to do $hit like that. This just goes to saying that a woman in a marriage or in a relationship going alone to bars is for the streets.
Totally agree. NO CHANCE i would be giving my GF permission to go to bars alone where there is a lot of males. And she is well AWARE that i would'nt put up with it!

When i have said things in past about not leaving my GF alone with males, i have been told by a lot of members that i'm far to controlling. pfft.

I'm sorry to hear what has happened though. I respect OP and believe he has the strength to come though this a better man.
 

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@CollegeMan22 @Hacker Thanks fellas. divorce is all over with and I moved from my home state of Illinois down to Florida, which I was really planning to do anyway eventually, with her, even before the divorce. Financially I got to keep all my big assets. I had to pay her a little bit of cash, but nothing got done with my 401k or any of that. I have slept with 4 women since the divorce, one ex and three new. dating a Puerto Rican woman right now, and really having a good time with her. Thanks again for following up.
I'm glad to hear you deal well brothers, not to preach but I hope you're establishing boundaries with the Puerto Rican woman
A woman especially a woman 35+ has no business being at bars and clubs, she should be at home tending to the garden and reading the bible
 

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I'm glad to hear you deal well brothers, not to preach but I hope you're establishing boundaries with the Puerto Rican woman
A woman especially a woman 35+ has no business being at bars and clubs, she should be at home tending to the garden and reading the bible
Thank you Sir.. The Puerto Rican woman seems different thus far. But time will tell. She is going out for a "girls night out" sometime soon. But rather than tell me to go home and forget her for the night, she asked me if I would be the designated driver for her and her girlfriends and I said I would. So I am going out on my first "girls night out" ever. This tell me she isn't going to be looking for more c0ck if she is inviting me along.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@logicallefty, sorry dude that you had to go through this. Have fun right now, use protection and just take it slow. Never choose the b!tch, let the b!tch choose you. Need to be firm, but fair. If she even hints at walking, say that's a good idea, I've been thinking the same thing; then walk away. Hopefully, the division of assets wasn't too bad.
 

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Thank you Sir.. The Puerto Rican woman seems different thus far. But time will tell. She is going out for a "girls night out" sometime soon. But rather than tell me to go home and forget her for the night, she asked me if I would be the designated driver for her and her girlfriends and I said I would. So I am going out on my first "girls night out" ever. This tell me she isn't going to be looking for more c0ck if she is inviting me along.
Could'nt think of anywhere worse i'd rather be than on a girls night outo_O
 

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I am really sorry to hear this. You need an attorney. You also need to make copies of all personal documents and store them off site in case you lose access to the house.
 

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Sorry bro...it definitely sucks.

It all depends on the woman sadly. And the only way you know is once you are in the situation. Sure there might be some things that in hindsight could have led you to speculate on it, but the truth is, you'll never know until the situation presents itself.

I know a guy who has been overseas a few times in Afghanistan and his wife is smoking hot and as soon as she was gone, some of his "friends" started coming at her hard...

She was appalled and told them to go shove it...never cheated on him and never even gave it a second thought.

Some people inherently "can't do that" and actually mean it. It's less and less but it's still out there.

It seems like she wants to go back to the carousel way of life and at the end of the day, it's better you find out now than after it's already happened a few times or more.
 

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One time I was the guy fvcking that woman when her hubby was deployed, many, many times. Should've known better, but you learn female nature in its true color when you're the guy she's cheating with. All the BS excuses she gave him, how blatantly she was lying to him, all the BS she was pulling up just to sneak and see me, women are ruthless when they wanna be man, not proud of any of that. Live and learn, I guess.
She wasn't having it...she told them she found their behavior disgusting and told her husband.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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