CollegeMan22
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@logicallefty are you doing alright? I hope you have gotten your legal bases covered and are ready to amp up the Machiavellian Dark Triad inside of you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Now I Know How Military Husbands Feel
- Thread starter logicallefty
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
logicallefty
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@CollegeMan22 @Hacker Thanks fellas. divorce is all over with and I moved from my home state of Illinois down to Florida, which I was really planning to do anyway eventually, with her, even before the divorce. Financially I got to keep all my big assets. I had to pay her a little bit of cash, but nothing got done with my 401k or any of that. I have slept with 4 women since the divorce, one ex and three new. dating a Puerto Rican woman right now, and really having a good time with her. Thanks again for following up.
Rainman4707
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Totally agree. NO CHANCE i would be giving my GF permission to go to bars alone where there is a lot of males. And she is well AWARE that i would'nt put up with it!
When i have said things in past about not leaving my GF alone with males, i have been told by a lot of members that i'm far to controlling. pfft.
I'm sorry to hear what has happened though. I respect OP and believe he has the strength to come though this a better man.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
I'm glad to hear you deal well brothers, not to preach but I hope you're establishing boundaries with the Puerto Rican woman
A woman especially a woman 35+ has no business being at bars and clubs, she should be at home tending to the garden and reading the bible
logicallefty
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Thank you Sir.. The Puerto Rican woman seems different thus far. But time will tell. She is going out for a "girls night out" sometime soon. But rather than tell me to go home and forget her for the night, she asked me if I would be the designated driver for her and her girlfriends and I said I would. So I am going out on my first "girls night out" ever. This tell me she isn't going to be looking for more c0ck if she is inviting me along.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
RickTheToad
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@logicallefty, sorry dude that you had to go through this. Have fun right now, use protection and just take it slow. Never choose the b!tch, let the b!tch choose you. Need to be firm, but fair. If she even hints at walking, say that's a good idea, I've been thinking the same thing; then walk away. Hopefully, the division of assets wasn't too bad.
Rainman4707
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Could'nt think of anywhere worse i'd rather be than on a girls night out
BackInTheGame78
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Sorry bro...it definitely sucks.
It all depends on the woman sadly. And the only way you know is once you are in the situation. Sure there might be some things that in hindsight could have led you to speculate on it, but the truth is, you'll never know until the situation presents itself.
I know a guy who has been overseas a few times in Afghanistan and his wife is smoking hot and as soon as she was gone, some of his "friends" started coming at her hard...
She was appalled and told them to go shove it...never cheated on him and never even gave it a second thought.
Some people inherently "can't do that" and actually mean it. It's less and less but it's still out there.
It seems like she wants to go back to the carousel way of life and at the end of the day, it's better you find out now than after it's already happened a few times or more.
It all depends on the woman sadly. And the only way you know is once you are in the situation. Sure there might be some things that in hindsight could have led you to speculate on it, but the truth is, you'll never know until the situation presents itself.
I know a guy who has been overseas a few times in Afghanistan and his wife is smoking hot and as soon as she was gone, some of his "friends" started coming at her hard...
She was appalled and told them to go shove it...never cheated on him and never even gave it a second thought.
Some people inherently "can't do that" and actually mean it. It's less and less but it's still out there.
It seems like she wants to go back to the carousel way of life and at the end of the day, it's better you find out now than after it's already happened a few times or more.
BackInTheGame78
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She wasn't having it...she told them she found their behavior disgusting and told her husband.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Pierce Manhammer
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This could also be someone that’s taken an woman’s picture off social and posted a fake profile. I doubt a woman would be that brazen, they’re too social and care about appearance.