MrConfidences thread

[MrConfidence]

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[Docs]

Piece by piece disassemation to the level you're at.:

Meghan: Hi, Mike, so what did you do over your weekend?
Me: Nothing really, went to the football game.
Good start.

Meghan: Well, duh, you're in band.
Me: Yeah. It was a pretty sh*tty game. We lost.
What? Band? If I read that correctly, you totally ignored her comment??

Meghan: Yeah.
Me: So, what did you do over your weekend?
Meghan: Oh, you know I just chilled.
The question is good.

Me: Uh... chilled, can you elaborate?
WTF...don't ever say that again. I mean the word 'elaborate' AND 'Uh'. Even something like 'Really? That's it?', or to throw in some fun, 'So you sat on your freezer and got cold?'

Meghan: I just kind of hung out with friends, and stuff.
Shoulda kept it going, ie: "What'd you guys do", "What are their names", etc.

Not bad, but you stopped talking right there, that awkwardness sucks for anything. It's not bad, but there's room for improvement. Focus on keeping the conversation going for 2x the time this one did, and repeat.

 

[GaryUranga]

Piece by piece disassemation to the level you're at.:

Meghan: Hi, Mike, so what did you do over your weekend?
Me: Nothing really, went to the football game.
Good start.

Meghan: Well, duh, you're in band.
Me: Yeah. It was a pretty sh*tty game. We lost.
What? Band? If I read that correctly, you totally ignored her comment??

Meghan: Yeah.
Me: So, what did you do over your weekend?
Meghan: Oh, you know I just chilled.
The question is good.

Me: Uh... chilled, can you elaborate?
WTF...don't ever say that again. I mean the word 'elaborate' AND 'Uh'. Even something like 'Really? That's it?', or to throw in some fun, 'So you sat on your freezer and got cold?'

Meghan: I just kind of hung out with friends, and stuff.
Shoulda kept it going, ie: "What'd you guys do", "What are their names", etc.

Not bad, but you stopped talking right there, that awkwardness sucks for anything. It's not bad, but there's room for improvement. Focus on keeping the conversation going for 2x the time this one did, and repeat.

I agree, try o find the key information she gives you, and build up; for example:

Meghan: Well, duh, you're in band.

Meghan: Oh, you know I just chilled.

Meghan: I just kind of hung out with friends, and stuff.

theres always "key" information.

 

[MrConfidence]

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[Docs]

Her: "You're in band."
You: "Have you seen me playing?"

There, you answered it.

The point here is that there is always a route to take, whether it is asking what she chilled about, what she did over the weekend, telling her a story and have her listen, sometimes you have to take control of the conversation and do that.

 

[Mr_rogers]

Dude, I did respond to the whole chilled thing. Maybe if she gave me something more interesting than chilled, I wouldn't need her to give more detail on the whole thing. And what am I suppose to say to the whole band comment? Uh, she already knows I'm in band, so what am I suppose to do, just confirm it? The band comment should obviously tell you that this isn't our first time talking.

Sometimes girls won't say things in the perfect manner so that you can come up with a response without effort. You'll need to work with what she gives you.

 

[GaryUranga]

Im not saying you SHOULD had responded to that, just saying that when you want to keep a convo going you have to search for those lil bits of conversation, she didnt give you much, thats fine.

 

[MrConfidence]

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[ChrizZ]

Why don´t you just tell him to **** off? Tell him to grow up and get a life. Tell him what a loser he is when he´s making retarded jokes. The most important thing however is to act cool. Don´t get furious. Act like you´re smarter than him and talk to him in a calm voice and look directly in his eyes.

 

[qweretyuiopas]

Why don´t you just tell him to **** off? Tell him to grow up and get a life. Tell him what a loser he is when he´s making retarded jokes. The most important thing however is to act cool. Don´t get furious. Act like you´re smarter than him and talk to him in a calm voice and look directly in his eyes.

Yeah right, no ****in way that will work. I mean if he punched the dude in the balls and he still talking ****, you think him saying that is gonna stop him? I know not to sweat the small **** and try to ignore all *****es and haters, but some mother****ers have hard ****in heads and need to get the everlovin **** beat out of them before they stop.

Dude disrespecting you, you told him to stop, you hit him in the balls, he still keeps on. Obviously, he must think you a little ***** or else he wouldnt be picking on you, show him you aint his ***** and make him yours. He gives you no respect, some hardheaded mother****ers need to get beat before they give it.

I dont like to fight either, but unless u want the dude to keep the **** up, you gonna have to show him whats gonna happen anytime he ****s with you. I hope u can fight man. Good luck, keep me updated.

 

[MrConfidence]

Well, I have no real friends in High School, and I want to change that. Sure there are people who will occassionally say "Hey" to me, even start small talk sometimes, but no one that I would consider a "real" friend. What I do I mean by "real" friend? Someone who I could call up, and ask to hang out on the weekends if I'm bored, and also, someone who actually enjoys being around me, that I don't have to act a certain way around. The reason I don't have any friends, is because I'm afraid of approaching people. I'm afraid that if I try to make friends with someone, they won't like me. Also, my social skills are just plain bad. If I think if I improved on those things though, I would definitely have an easier time going up to people, and making friends, but the question is, how can I improve on these things? Thanks in advance. Basically, I want to go from the guy with no friends, to the guy with friends. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to become popular, I just want to make friends.

 

[i am me]

im more a lover than a fighter....but if i was in your situation, i would fight him after school somewhere so u dont get in trouble

why did he start makin fun of u in the first place? u gotta hav a reason to...is it your clothes, ur voice, or are u a loner or something?

 

[MrConfidence]

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[UncleRuckus]

dont worry about that. i dont want to sound like a dad but dude the name of the game now is making paper. go to school and get ready of college because once you get older and make money the women will fall all over you. do you think bill gates had friends in high school?

you have to relax and network, my rule is to meet 10 different people a day. why dont you start off with 2 a day and work form there

 

[MrConfidence]

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[originaldj]

You don't need friends to have a life. You want something to do on weekends then get a job. If you want something to do at lunch then join clubs. If you want friends then get confidence. There is no how-to guide for life, like "how to make a friend" discover your own ways of making friends.

 

[bballkilla]

how many other people make fun of you? is it just him? do they laugh about you behind your back, or only to your face?

 

[tucking fypo]

I say you should get down with him after school.

OR

IMO its not nesscary to fight him unless you really want to. What i would do is rather not be offended and make jokes about him. just like using reverse psychology - Think about it, if he's making fun of you and you take it as a funny way and even tell jokes about him or yourself, he will be shocked and be like *wtf?! hes not mad or anything?*

for instance

chri5: yo you have such a high pitched voice! dam your balls havent dropped yet or are you gay?!

you:nah im straight like that. my voice is probably like this from all the things i did with my tounge to your mom..
just say something like that.. =/

it shows balls not only to him but to his freinds, and who knows maybe they might think thats funny and let you join their group.
if he wants to fight you take him on - after all you already kicked him in the balls so i guess you wanted to fight him.

hope this helps -
http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip268.htm < using reverse psychology

 

[GaryUranga]

Well, I have no real friends in High School, and I want to change that. Sure there are people who will occassionally say "Hey" to me, even start small talk sometimes, but no one that I would consider a "real" friend. What I do I mean by "real" friend? Someone who I could call up, and ask to hang out on the weekends if I'm bored, and also, someone who actually enjoys being around me, that I don't have to act a certain way around. The reason I don't have any friends, is because I'm afraid of approaching people. I'm afraid that if I try to make friends with someone, they won't like me. Also, my social skills are just plain bad. If I think if I improved on those things though, I would definitely have an easier time going up to people, and making friends, but the question is, how can I improve on these things? Thanks in advance. Basically, I want to go from the guy with no friends, to the guy with friends. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to become popular, I just want to make friends.

If I remember most my friends werent planned, I didnt plan "Im going to get a friend" it just happens when you meet more and more ppl youll suddenly meet some cool guy, and usuallywhen you think someone is cool its cause theyre being friendly to you and open, do that yourself and ppl will start thinking that, or be passive (but get yourself around ppl) and they will come to you.

 

[MrConfidence]

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