CyrusTheGreat
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This is way too low man. You need to see a professional and get on TRT asap. Also my guess is that this relationship has taken a toll on your t levels.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LTR - Not sure how to handle this issue.....
- Thread starter Free_Agent
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Free_Agent
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I hear you. I went to one clinic and they use solely pellets. As I read more, I'm leaning towards injections. Thant might necessitate me finding another clinic.
I wouldn't doubt it. I'm too messed up with this current situation.
Free_Agent
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Just wanted to post a little update. Been working on myself. Started on TRT about a week ago. Still with the LTR. Went to PR together. Still have trip planned for Costa Rica but I'm having second thoughts on even bringing her. Things have been going smooth, albeit her what always has seemed aloofness or low interest level possibly.
Do know that her ex bought her a $600 xmas gift and she got him a few things maybe totaling $150 and she got me....a bag of mixed chocolates so that's that..
Do know that her ex bought her a $600 xmas gift and she got him a few things maybe totaling $150 and she got me....a bag of mixed chocolates so that's that..
CyrusTheGreat
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Good to hear that you have started improving yourself. But sorry to hear the rest of the story man. She's playing both you and the ex. I hope you can cut your losses sooner than later.
I've seen this scenario as a third person, where I was friend with a woman who had kept her ex and a friend of mine on the hook.
One of guys was like her main bf and the other was more like the back up plan. She just paid enough attention to both of them to keep them spinning.
This was back in my blue pill days and I rationalised her behaviour according to her reasoning even though it made me feel sick of her and pity for both of the guys.
I've seen this scenario as a third person, where I was friend with a woman who had kept her ex and a friend of mine on the hook.
One of guys was like her main bf and the other was more like the back up plan. She just paid enough attention to both of them to keep them spinning.
This was back in my blue pill days and I rationalised her behaviour according to her reasoning even though it made me feel sick of her and pity for both of the guys.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Free_Agent
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Yep. Just this past one.
BackInTheGame78
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I did pellets for a while...didn't really like getting sliced open and stitched up every 3 months. Even tho it's minimal it still hurts for 3 or 4 days and depending on how you are sitting it can be irritating. Was expensive too because insurance doesn't cover it.
I prefer injections although that's a pain in the ass to do every 5 days sometimes and there are times I forget. Put it in my calendar now with multitudes of reminders so that's better.
I do subQ versus IM, easier to do on your own and just as effective.