LTR - Not sure how to handle this issue.....

[Free_Agent]

Forgot about the the "gay" guy (who I bet is actually bisexual) for a second. You would be okay with your LTR going to a Puerto Rican equivalent of Spring Break without you?

Exactly. And of course she tried to flank me by offering me to come with knowing that I'd have to choose between her and seeing my kids.

Then, I called her bluff and said ok I'll come and bought tickets. Shortly after that she's like, ohh, xyz isn't going to come and we need to find a hotel room then.

I'm going to go see my kids. We'll see what she chooses.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Exactly. And of course she tried to flank me by offering me to come with knowing that I'd have to choose between her and seeing my kids.

Then, I called her bluff and said ok I'll come and bought tickets. Shortly after that she's like, ohh, xyz isn't going to come and we need to find a hotel room then.

I'm going to go see my kids. We'll see what she chooses.

Damn bro. Im so glad you called her bluff. But I got a little lost, is xyz the "gay" friend?

 

[SW15]

Forgot about the the "gay" guy (who I bet is actually bisexual) for a second. You would be okay with your LTR going to a Puerto Rican equivalent of Spring Break without you?

I would not be ok with that.

 

[Free_Agent]

Damn bro. Im so glad you called her bluff. But I got a little lost, is xyz the "gay" friend?

Yes xyz is the gay friend.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Yes xyz is the gay friend.

Ok, so what are the possibilities? From least likely to most likely:

- The guy had a legit reason to bail on the trip
- The guy isnt really gay, so when he heard you were going, he bailed.
- The guy doesnt even exists, she made him up.

Is there another one Im missing?

 

[catsmeow2]

Is there another one Im missing?

Yes, the "gay guy" was actually her EX and since OP called her bluff and took her up on her offer, obviously the current plan with ex wasn't gonna fly and the EX had to bail.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Yes, the gay guy was actually her EX and since OP called her bluff and took him up on his offer, obviously the current plan with ex wasn't gonna fly and the EX had to bail.

Yes, that would be the most likely one. Im a little jealous of you. "Call her bluff and say you are going on the trip", "The gay guy was actually the Ex all along". I wish I could take credit for those.

 

[catsmeow2]

Yes, that would be the most likely one. Im a little jealous of you. "Call her bluff and say you are going on the trip", "The gay guy was actually the Ex all along". I wish I could take credit for those.

Female intuition.

 

[Free_Agent]

Ok, so what are the possibilities? From least likely to most likely:

- The guy had a legit reason to bail on the trip
- The guy isnt really gay, so when he heard you were going, he bailed.
- The guy doesnt even exists, she made him up.

Is there another one Im missing?

Either that or maybe he really is a gay friend and decided not to be the third wheel? I know this person at least exists. I've seen a picture of him, and he could be gay. Other than that who knows.

 

[Dr.Suave]

@Free_Agent what´s the plan here? Are you gonna break up with her? I think most (if not all) feel you should. If you decide no to break up with her, we still wish you the best.

 

[catsmeow2]

Either that or maybe he really is a gay friend and decided not to be the third wheel?

If it is her gay friend, why would he care if you go or not? He can do his own thing, hit on guys whatever. I mean he's already purchased the tickets and all.

Sorry but your girl is hiding something. Like the trip was with her EX.

Given her previous deceptive actions like having dinner with him and lying to you about it, deleting their text messages, and the fact they've taken two previous trips to tropical islands together, one during a two week hiatus from your relationship and the other while you were IN the relationship, not sure why it hasn't occurred to you she's lying about this too.

Now, you called her bluff and took her up on her offer and suddenly this so called "gay friend" bailed out.

IDK, to me it's so obvious she was actually going with her EX, but if it hurts too much to believe that then carry on believing what you want.

You said there aren't many other options in your area, so you cling to this relationship with a woman who lies and possibly cheats.

What about self-respect?

Does that enter into your thought process at all?

In any event, I echo @Dr.Suave , wish you the best whatever path you choose to follow.

 

[Stanley]

I hope you bought her ticket....to the curb.
Drop her, xyz is probably just the x and she used the gay guy as a placeholder. This is done.

 

[Pierce.Manhammer]

Wow this hurts even to read as a bystander. OP: listen to @catsmeow2

It’s brutal, but true. She’s for the streets man. Before calling it off tell her why - use cat’s post as a framework so you can annihilate her. Damn it still smarts. But we’ve all been victims of this at one point or another, it’s a rite of passage. Learn and move on.

 

[Free_Agent]

If it is her gay friend, why would he care if you go or not? He can do his own thing, hit on guys whatever. I mean he's already purchased the tickets and all.

Sorry but your girl is hiding something. Like the trip was with her EX.

Given her previous deceptive actions like having dinner with him and lying to you about it, deleting their text messages, and the fact they've taken two previous trips to tropical islands together, one during a two week hiatus from your relationship and the other while you were IN the relationship, not sure why it hasn't occurred to you she's lying about this too.

Now, you called her bluff and took her up on her offer and suddenly this so called "gay friend" bailed out.

IDK, to me it's so obvious she was actually going with her EX, but if it hurts too much to believe that then carry on believing what you want.

You said there aren't many other options in your area, so you cling to this relationship with a woman who lies and possibly cheats.

What about self-respect?

Does that enter into your thought process at all?

In any event, I echo @Dr.Suave , wish you the best whatever path you choose to follow.

Thanks catsmeow2.

According to her, he works for the airlines so from my understanding they're able to travel pretty freely without buying tickets or making reservations.

All the rest I , and everyone else agree with you on. I hear you on the self respect. Not exactly sure why when it comes to this particular circumstance, a relationship with a woman I'm in such a terrible shape.

On a separate note Pedrito0906 - My lab results came back and I have total T level of 105.

 

[Stanley]

Thanks catsmeow2.

According to her, he works for the airlines so from my understanding they're able to travel pretty freely without buying tickets or making reservations.

All the rest I , and everyone else agree with you on. I hear you on the self respect. Not exactly sure why when it comes to this particular circumstance, a relationship with a woman I'm in such a terrible shape.

On a separate note Pedrito0906 - My lab results came back and I have total T level of 105.

woah hold on, 105 nanograms? that would be crazy low T

 

[Pedrito0906]

Thanks catsmeow2.

According to her, he works for the airlines so from my understanding they're able to travel pretty freely without buying tickets or making reservations.

All the rest I , and everyone else agree with you on. I hear you on the self respect. Not exactly sure why when it comes to this particular circumstance, a relationship with a woman I'm in such a terrible shape.

On a separate note Pedrito0906 - My lab results came back and I have total T level of 105.

Yeah 105 what? Ng/dL? That's impossible, that's the Test of a 90 years old guy.

 

[Free_Agent]

I'm assuming. Am I interpreting it right?

 

[LARaiders85]

Exactly. And of course she tried to flank me by offering me to come with knowing that I'd have to choose between her and seeing my kids.

Then, I called her bluff and said ok I'll come and bought tickets. Shortly after that she's like, ohh, xyz isn't going to come and we need to find a hotel room then.

I'm going to go see my kids. We'll see what she chooses.

you caught her lying again so why are you waiting to see what she chooses? this is not some little game lol

 

[Pedrito0906]

I'm assuming. Am I interpreting it right?


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WOW, how do you even have the motivation to wake up brother? That is crazy

Get to a TRT asap, you'll feel like an 18 years old guy again in 4 weeks, and you won't tolerate bs like this one with your gf, even if you want to, the man in you under trt won't let you.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

I'm assuming. Am I interpreting it right?


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This is way too low man. You need to see a professional and get on TRT asap. Also my guess is that this relationship has taken a toll on your t levels.