"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maybe if you talked to some old geezers instead of dancing you'd learn how to get laid by saying less. This is a sad thread.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Maybe if you talked to some old geezers instead of dancing you'd learn how to get laid by saying less. This is a sad thread.
Haha Is that supposed to make sense?
 
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It makes sense to everyone in the thread who gets laid, Plinco. I'm not going to argue with you again. It's sad that you're on the web writing essays about dancing, trying to get validated by a bunch of guys who just want you to stfu at this point since you refuse their advice anyways. Straight up, your texting is cringe AF and every woman can tell there's something off with your mental.

But hey, talk more and f*ck less if you think that'll get you what you want.
 
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It makes sense to everyone in the thread who gets laid, Plinco. I'm not going to argue with you again. It's sad that you're on the web writing essays about dancing, trying to get validated by a bunch of guys who just want you to stfu at this point since you refuse their advice anyways. Straight up, your texting is cringe AF and every woman can tell there's something off with your mental.

But hey, talk more and f*ck less if you think that'll get you what you want.
A little late but well said. His attitude has changed a bit lately. Less talking and more action is needed for sure.
 

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It makes sense to everyone in the thread who gets laid, Plinco. I'm not going to argue with you again. It's sad that you're on the web writing essays about dancing, trying to get validated by a bunch of guys who just want you to stfu at this point since you refuse their advice anyways.
Haha Is that supposed to make sense?
You see this? This is the response of someone who's not taking you seriously.

Straight up, your texting is cringe AF and every woman can tell there's something off with your mental.
It's a matter of me getting back into the game. I've done it before, lots of times, and I'll do it again.

You wanted to argue with me and I was doing you a favor. If you want to keep going then be my guest. I'll tear you to pieces

well said.
No it isn't.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You see this? This is the response of someone who's not taking you seriously.



It's a matter of me getting back into the game. I've done it before, lots of times, and I'll do it again.

You wanted to argue with me and I was doing you a favor. If you want to keep going then be my guest. I'll tear you to pieces



No it isn't.
I’m not doing this again.
 

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It makes sense to everyone in the thread who gets laid, Plinco. I'm not going to argue with you again. It's sad that you're on the web writing essays about dancing, trying to get validated by a bunch of guys who just want you to stfu at this point since you refuse their advice anyways. Straight up, your texting is cringe AF and every woman can tell there's something off with your mental.

But hey, talk more and f*ck less if you think that'll get you what you want.
 

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Spending too much time thinking, and not enough time doing, is spinning your wheels and not going forward.

Having said that, being a decent dancer is attractive to most sane women. Taking some dance lessons isn't a bad idea if you really want to learn to dance.
 

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Spending too much time thinking, and not enough time doing, is spinning your wheels and not going forward.

Having said that, being a decent dancer is attractive to most sane women. Taking some dance lessons isn't a bad idea if you really want to learn to dance.
I agree with what you said. There's more going on than meets the eye; I haven't been posting everything that I have going on. Hopefully I'll be meeting a cute girl on Sunday for coffee.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm not going to argue with you again.
Set and setting...

You see this? This is the response of someone who's not taking you seriously.
Yes, that's why I think you're a hopelessly stupid a**hole and stopped giving you serious advice.


A little late but well said. His attitude has changed a bit lately. Less talking and more action is needed for sure.
Thank God someone got through to him.


I’m not doing this again.
Remember he was the one who wanted to argue with me
Lmfao, nevermind. Trying to get validation and control through a one sided argument yet again. That's still woman behavior dude. They sense it, and it turns them off.

Plinco, you should reflect on this because my predictions determine your actions like clockwork. There's a certain logic to your egocentric mania and you've already been given all the resources you need to understand it. The question is whether you're intelligent enough to do the meta-reasoning.

Good luck.
 
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I agree with what you said. There's more going on than meets the eye; I haven't been posting everything that I have going on. Hopefully I'll be meeting a cute girl on Sunday for coffee.
Sunday for coffee...

I mean why would you choose this day/activity as a date?

There is something called setting yourself up for failure and this is essentially what this date selection is.
 

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Sunday for coffee...

I mean why would you choose this day/activity as a date?

There is something called setting yourself up for failure and this is essentially what this date selection is.
Why would this be setting it up for failure? If she likes me enough then what difference would it make what day it is?
 

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Set and setting...


Yes, that's why I think you're a hopelessly stupid a**hole and stopped giving you serious advice.



Thank God someone got through to him.




Lmfao, nevermind. Trying to get validation and control through a one sided argument yet again. That's still woman behavior dude. They sense it, and it turns them off.

Plinco, you should reflect on this because my predictions determine your actions like clockwork. There's a certain logic to your egocentric mania and you've already been given all the resources you need to understand it. The question is whether you're intelligent enough to do the meta-reasoning.

Good luck.
I looked at your so called sources and it had basically nothing to do with our discussion. The caterpillar experiment was a little interesting but that has nothing to do with human cognition. I gave you a list of sources that I'll be willing to bet that you didn't look into. I get a sense that you're not taking my input seriously. So why would I take your input seriously? I'm waiting for you to say something insightful.

I love these debates. It challenges ideas and opens doors that wouldn't open in people's bubbles.

The so called sources you given, and your accusations, show that so far you're in no position to lecture me.

Maybe at some point you can show me something that I didn't know already. Relax and enjoy the experience
 

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Why would this be setting it up for failure? If she likes me enough then what difference would it make what day it is?
Part of her liking you is the energy and the vibe being around you and choosing Sunday and coffee are two of the lowest energy plays you could do. And you stacked them together.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Part of her liking you is the energy and the vibe being around you and choosing Sunday and coffee are two of the lowest energy plays you could do. And you stacked them together.
I’ve told Plinco that if he were to have any success with the women, he has to go after women who like him, and show interest towards him, not the other way around. If he met this girl offline and she liked him, then there’s a good chance he’s set.

If a woman dislikes you, you will not change her mind. GGS
 

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Part of her liking you is the energy and the vibe being around you and choosing Sunday and coffee are two of the lowest energy plays you could do. And you stacked them together.
I don't know if I agree with that but I'll keep that in mind. Thanks

I’ve told Plinco that if he were to have any success with the women, he has to go after women who like him, and show interest towards him, not the other way around. If he met this girl offline and she liked him, then there’s a good chance he’s set.

If a woman dislikes you, you will not change her mind. GGS
Yeah but I got to like them first. I get women in their 30's flirting with me but I don't make anything of that because I want a girlfriend and not a mommy.
 
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Well that goes without saying. Make sure the girl you like also likes you. Don’t be a dummy and go after a woman who doesn’t like you.
I’ll also add that all the time I get with women, I don’t necessarily like them at first. In this day and age, there‘s no shortage of beautiful women. There’s no guarantee I’m going to get with every single girl I meet.

The mindset I have when I go out is sure I’ll approach, but it’s whatever. Maybe I won’t approach, who cares. I’ve told you before that my people reading skills are extremely high. Say I’ll approach a girl I like, and within 5-10 minutes I’ll know if the girl is into me or not. I’ll move on if they’re not interested.

I’ve had women approach me who I didn’t really care for. They were beautiful, but that doesn’t mean anything to me. I socialize with them to figure out their personality, and depending on who they are, I’ll take a liking to them or not.
 

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@Plinco the thing you keep missing, intentionally I'm sure due to your ego issue, is that what you think doesn't matter. What she thinks does. And we're better judges of that than you which is why you create these threads.

@BackInTheGame78 is right. An attractive woman is infinitely more excited by Friday night drinks (which can easily lead to sex on the first meeting) than Sunday coffee (less likely). Imagine inviting her for drinks to your place - the probability of sex is near 100% if she accepts.

Women are aware of this and hence reserve those opportunities for the men they are most attracted to. You should at least plan spicy dates to gauge her interest. If you can only ever get Sunday coffee something is wrong.

I’ve told you before that my people reading skills are extremely high. Say I’ll approach a girl I like, and within 5-10 minutes I’ll know if the girl is into me or not. I’ll move on if they’re not interested.
Literally this. The type of date you plan and how you interact with her let's you get a read. She knows that too. Failing in this area is the easiest way to let her know you're not actually smooth/high EQ. And unfortunately, that's what really gets the pvssy wet.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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