I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
It is small waist to hip ratios (that is, waist at 70% of hips) that generally indicates fitness. Why do you think otherwise? And "Just because" is not a good answer.Originally posted by Tazman
I don't think a "small waist" on a woman is necessarily an indicator of good health.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
glad someone pointed it out, amidst the cries of "i'd fcuk her" and "no i wouldn't fcuk her"Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
The truth of the matter is that we are talking about people (men included) that over indulge. They don't need to be rail thin but truly healthy.
its sooo easy to call someone ignorant :crackup:Originally posted by Socialreject
Francisco d'Anconia: So you think beauty = value?
Can't say i agree. I hate it when someone worships beauty. Not cause i'm ugly, or date ugly chicks, but simply because it's ignorant. Personally i don't give a damn how someone looks (5-6-7-8 WHATEVER) aslong as i'm attrackted to them that will suffice. I have to say i dislike fat chicks BUT i like some meat. I dislike skinny atleast asmuch as i dislike fat. Marilyn Monroe shapes are kind of my ideal in a woman.
True, but having a gut is seldom if ever the sign of a healthy person.Originally posted by Tazman
I don't think a "small waist" on a woman is necessarily an indicator of good health.
You're comparing something that can be achieved through healthy, active lifestyle and exercise to something that can only be achieved through either extremely lucky genetics or expensive cosmetic surgery? Get over yourself. Fat is fat, and fat is unattractive.Originally posted by SeldomSeen
by who's standard should she be 120lbs? YOurs? SOme magazine? American society?
Every guy should look like Brad Pitt too. I wonder how many guys on the forum look like Brad Pitt, have chiseled abs, well trimmed, nice tanned etc. I doubt many because they wouldnt be on this site talking about their problems finding women.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You're new here, right?Originally posted by Socialreject
Francisco d'Anconia: So you think beauty = value?
Yeah, it done mostly when someone is so self indulged in being right that any other opinion isn't easily understood or respected. It obviously can't be a lacking on their part so it must be ignorance of the other person.Originally posted by Egoist
its sooo easy to call someone ignorant :crackup: