"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm going to write a book, for all of you

snowdog

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Some of you might know me. I write a sh*t load of stuff on this forum. Not many random posts, but always long stories and theories. The two links in my signature will show you what I mean.

I'm 100% sure I'm going to get successful real soon, I can feel it. If you read my journal, you can tell I'm improving with every post I put in there.

I came from an amazingly sh*tty position. Really, it was extremely sh*tty. And I'm out of that, and I'm moving towards a great thing. I know that when I get into the groove of the whole girl thing, I will ace it. Sometimes I get these little hints here and there that show me that I'm really about to breakthrough in this. And I will. Everything I achieved, I struggled to get there. But I got there eventually.

I want to help others out who are lost in what they are supposed to do about their situation. I look around and I recognize my old self in a lot of people. Painfully insecure, unable to act, unable to even talk to girls.

I'm currently writing a book with all the useful information I gathered over the past years. The book will be done when I am where I want to be with girls. Because only then, I'll be able to add the final chapters. Only firsthand information, things that worked for me, broken down as easily as possible. Check the 'Snowdogs super tips' thread, it'll be in that style.

I'll promise you that it'll rock. I never believed in donating money to charity, but I believe in people that want to help themselves. The book I'm writing will be very compact information, and it will be written in the same style as I'm writing on here.

And I won't be charging any money for it. Why? Because I want to help people out. Because I know how much it f*cking sucks to fail at this.

Once it's done, I'll launch a website with a free download as a PDF.

When it'll be done? Well, just keep following my journal. Eventually there will be big success stories in there, it'll be a matter of time. That's a promise :up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I can relate a lot to you snowdog.

I'll be waiting with anticipation.
 

snowdog

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Currently at 4000 words. I'm liking it quite a lot how it's taking shape so far.

And I'm still improving myself. I'm trying to get that done as soon as possible, so I can work on this cool little project of mine.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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you are very inspirational my friend. keep it up
 

snowdog

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8875 right now, cut some parts out, and changed some bits as well. definitely going somewhere.

I hit a low point a couple of weeks ago, and I learned from that ****. It gives me inspiration.

I'm the tortured artist. LOVE MEH!!!!11
 

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sounds good. I like the angle. :) Right now I am at probably where you were at the beginning of your book. lol
 

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No problem there, just send the money to me ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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snowdog

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I'm going to put a donate button on the site. Whether people want to pay me for it, it's going to be their choice. I'm not doing this for money. Sure it'll be nice, but I mainly do it to help other guys like (once) me. A lot of times I feel sorry for guys by just lookin' at them. Good dudes who deserve to get laid but don't while f*cking ass-holes do.
 

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Hey snowdog,

I appreciate you doing this, and I hope it'll help other people realize what I (and you too) had to figure out on your own, and that is...get your own insecurities and past/childhood straightened out first. No matter how bad you are at certain things, you, as a person, don't need to be FIXED. This idea that my identity was faulty translated into paralyzing insecurity for me.

I didn't realize how much energy and effort my brain was expending trying to hold everything together until after I overcame the problem. All this brainpower devoted to trying to "fix" oneself and project a different outer self than you really are. Basically a lifetime of acting.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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