"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm going to write a book, for all of you

snowdog

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Some of you might know me. I write a sh*t load of stuff on this forum. Not many random posts, but always long stories and theories. The two links in my signature will show you what I mean.

I'm 100% sure I'm going to get successful real soon, I can feel it. If you read my journal, you can tell I'm improving with every post I put in there.

I came from an amazingly sh*tty position. Really, it was extremely sh*tty. And I'm out of that, and I'm moving towards a great thing. I know that when I get into the groove of the whole girl thing, I will ace it. Sometimes I get these little hints here and there that show me that I'm really about to breakthrough in this. And I will. Everything I achieved, I struggled to get there. But I got there eventually.

I want to help others out who are lost in what they are supposed to do about their situation. I look around and I recognize my old self in a lot of people. Painfully insecure, unable to act, unable to even talk to girls.

I'm currently writing a book with all the useful information I gathered over the past years. The book will be done when I am where I want to be with girls. Because only then, I'll be able to add the final chapters. Only firsthand information, things that worked for me, broken down as easily as possible. Check the 'Snowdogs super tips' thread, it'll be in that style.

I'll promise you that it'll rock. I never believed in donating money to charity, but I believe in people that want to help themselves. The book I'm writing will be very compact information, and it will be written in the same style as I'm writing on here.

And I won't be charging any money for it. Why? Because I want to help people out. Because I know how much it f*cking sucks to fail at this.

Once it's done, I'll launch a website with a free download as a PDF.

When it'll be done? Well, just keep following my journal. Eventually there will be big success stories in there, it'll be a matter of time. That's a promise :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I can relate a lot to you snowdog.

I'll be waiting with anticipation.
 

snowdog

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Currently at 4000 words. I'm liking it quite a lot how it's taking shape so far.

And I'm still improving myself. I'm trying to get that done as soon as possible, so I can work on this cool little project of mine.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you are very inspirational my friend. keep it up
 

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8875 right now, cut some parts out, and changed some bits as well. definitely going somewhere.

I hit a low point a couple of weeks ago, and I learned from that ****. It gives me inspiration.

I'm the tortured artist. LOVE MEH!!!!11
 

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sounds good. I like the angle. :) Right now I am at probably where you were at the beginning of your book. lol
 

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No problem there, just send the money to me ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm going to put a donate button on the site. Whether people want to pay me for it, it's going to be their choice. I'm not doing this for money. Sure it'll be nice, but I mainly do it to help other guys like (once) me. A lot of times I feel sorry for guys by just lookin' at them. Good dudes who deserve to get laid but don't while f*cking ass-holes do.
 

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Hey snowdog,

I appreciate you doing this, and I hope it'll help other people realize what I (and you too) had to figure out on your own, and that is...get your own insecurities and past/childhood straightened out first. No matter how bad you are at certain things, you, as a person, don't need to be FIXED. This idea that my identity was faulty translated into paralyzing insecurity for me.

I didn't realize how much energy and effort my brain was expending trying to hold everything together until after I overcame the problem. All this brainpower devoted to trying to "fix" oneself and project a different outer self than you really are. Basically a lifetime of acting.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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