You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
For example @eli77, 2024 federal poverty level in Florida for a single person will be $14,580. Plus 25% is $18,225/yr…You might want to look into the I-864.
The Form I-864 Affidavit of Support obligates you, as the sponsor, to support your immigrant spouse—and now ex-spouse—at an amount that's 125% or more of the U.S. Poverty Guidelines levels until your ex spouse either:
- earns 40 work quarters credited toward Social Security (approximately ten years of work)
- becomes a U.S. citizen
- dies, or
- permanently leaves the United States.
I wouldn't do it. That 10K is not worth your effective freedom. In fact she can legally have you on the hook for more than that in the future. Trust has to be earned, you can't just trust anyone.Ive been in this position before my brother got away with it and so did a close female friend from the south what has been your experience with this type of thing.So call fake and paid marriages?
It's a scam and that's all that needs to be said.Ive been in this position before my brother got away with it and so did a close female friend from the south what has been your experience with this type of thing.So call fake and paid marriages?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
There are pros and cons to committing immigration fraud. Sounds like you've only considered the pros.Ive been in this position before my brother got away with it and so did a close female friend from the south what has been your experience with this type of thing.So call fake and paid marriages?
fair enough at least i had friends and family go through the same situation.There are pros and cons to committing immigration fraud. Sounds like you've only considered the pros.