Master Don Juan
- Sep 13, 2019
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- Southeast USA
I won't pretend that negative self-talk is never in order; it can be called for, but those who most deserve it are least inclined to it. Use the carrot and the stick as needed, always favoring the carrot, and reserving the stick for when the carrot is insufficient.This is like an inner game issue I've been having. I want to get rid of it, wanted some opinions.
I've finally gotten rid of my victim mentality. Everything that happens to me is my own fault and it's my responsibility to fix it. I'm taking the steps to make my life right: getting grades, building a nice body, learning Game, chasing my dreams, lots of stuff. I'm seeing some results.
But I still have this nasty voice in my head: "God, you're so stupid. You should've known about this sh*t ages ago. Had you been on SoSuave since your freshman year of college, you would've had all this handled. You could've put all this stuff into 4 years instead of cramming it into 1, and success would've been easier."
I know it's my own fault for not taking action in the past. But how can I rid myself of these thoughts?
I know that my time is better spent fixing my life RIGHT NOW instead of whining about the past.
How do I fix that?
The two great motivators are fear and desire, but fear is far more powerful. The idea is to train yourself to become more driven by desire than fear. Fear will usually only keep people from freezing and starving to death. Fear keep people working just hard enough to avoid joblessness and homelessness, but rarely spurs anyone to excellence.
Less stick, maybe.