Ok when you explain it that way it makes a lot of sense. I could see that.the point is you shouldn't have to remind yourself "hey AMS said getting attached to deez hoez is for cucks!".
to constantly remind yourself that while at the same time trying to seduce women is a terrible waste of energy.
i think that's what @stormrider means by game.
it's much more beneficial, and much more efficient to find clever ways to invest that energy 100% into your own growth and satisfaction. if you do this well you'll find yourself much more relaxed and comfortable in your life, which provides the natural confidence and positive attitude for attracting positive people and taking on challenging endeavors. if you're smart you'll pick coed hobbies and women will stumble through your life. the best relationships happen when you least expect them.
back to your OP. do you see any value in self deprecation? any at all? if not then ask yourself why you exercise it. who better to answer that question than you? who can dive deeper into your psyche than you? you need to focus inward and figure this out, not outward at women. if you can't master your own mind how can a woman expect you to master her body and range of emotions? you shouldn't be trying to convince her you can master her, you should simply embody self mastery and exude it like the boss you are.
as a man you determine what's valuable in your life. find yourself a mission you can be passionate about and love THAT. let the women try to break you up with that passion.
As for why I rag on myself... That goes super deep. I don't want to whine about my problems on the forum anymore. But it goes really deep.
I was thinking I should just ignore that and paper it over until I get some more results/success? But you're saying you need to work from the inside out?
As for my passion... Music and programming. Most definitely