kickureface
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do you have any idea on how it came about?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I have cancer
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't think they really know the real causes of Hodgkin's? Viral, who knows? It does strike young people I knew a guy in high school Senior class who found out he had Hodgkin's just before graduation. He had a lump...usually in the groin or the armpit. He underwent treatment for a while, came out of it OK, went on to become a doctor. He missed the first year of college, but he used his experience to leap forward tremendously.
Good luck wolf, hang in there and be strong.
Good luck wolf, hang in there and be strong.
Quiksilver
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What city do you live in?
I just moved out here and need someone to teach me how to surf
I just moved out here and need someone to teach me how to surf
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
Best of luck Wolf.
Might not mean much, but I'm sure the whole community here is behind you.
Might not mean much, but I'm sure the whole community here is behind you.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Wolf, five years from now this thread will be 500 pages long and more focused on your advice as a cancer survivor. But you have a lot of work to put in first. Good luck with everything.
Yeah I guess I don't really care about my deadlift now that I know how to use a gym, I can always start again.EFFORT said:
When I get through this it will be because of doctors saving my life. There's nothing I can really do except eat well and stay positive.
I sent you a PM Quiksilver.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
determination is your first weapon of defense.
telling yourself and believing that you will not let cancer take you, is something you need to do daily.
telling yourself, i will not have cancer for long, will spark more hope inside yourself than just being silent about it.
start a blog and get your feelings out.
you can do that on your myspace page.
don't stop being you just because you have an illness.
perhaps it will go into remission very soon.
we are all here rooting for you wolf. please continue to let us know how you are doing by updating your thread.
our family will pray for you to over come this.
telling yourself and believing that you will not let cancer take you, is something you need to do daily.
telling yourself, i will not have cancer for long, will spark more hope inside yourself than just being silent about it.
start a blog and get your feelings out.
you can do that on your myspace page.
don't stop being you just because you have an illness.
perhaps it will go into remission very soon.
we are all here rooting for you wolf. please continue to let us know how you are doing by updating your thread.
our family will pray for you to over come this.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
KontrollerX
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Damn sorry to hear that man.
Glad to hear that yours has a good chance of recovery though.
Keep up the fight brother.
We are all in your corner if only symbolically.
And yeah definitely keep us updated on your progress.
Glad to hear that yours has a good chance of recovery though.
Keep up the fight brother.
We are all in your corner if only symbolically.
And yeah definitely keep us updated on your progress.
PerfectCircle
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Hoping your whole experience is nothing more then a inconvenience. Best of luck at a fast and permanent recovery.
Remulak
Senior Don Juan
You will defeat this, I will keep you in my prayers. Please keep us updated and stay strong.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This really makes you want to live your life to the fullest. One day you can wake up and find out you have cancer, etc.
You sound like you're being very proactive about it which is great! Fight hard and you'll pull through man.
You sound like you're being very proactive about it which is great! Fight hard and you'll pull through man.
Mr.Positive
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I believe sometimes in life God calls upon us to fight for something. He sees strength, and tests it.
A lot of people go through life without much to fight for, but for those that get called upon...like you Wolf, you will discover a strength inside of you that nothing can take away.
When you beat this, you'll wake up each morning truly understanding, that today, is the first day of the rest of your life.
A lot of people go through life without much to fight for, but for those that get called upon...like you Wolf, you will discover a strength inside of you that nothing can take away.
When you beat this, you'll wake up each morning truly understanding, that today, is the first day of the rest of your life.
Thanks so much everyone for your support, I even got an email from Warboss Alex which made my day.
Thanks for letting me vent a little, I can't tell anyone in real life except mum, they will just treat you like you're dying and look at you strangely when you laugh.
I will keep everyone up to date.
Thanks for letting me vent a little, I can't tell anyone in real life except mum, they will just treat you like you're dying and look at you strangely when you laugh.
I will keep everyone up to date.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.