kickureface
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do you have any idea on how it came about?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I have cancer
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't think they really know the real causes of Hodgkin's? Viral, who knows? It does strike young people I knew a guy in high school Senior class who found out he had Hodgkin's just before graduation. He had a lump...usually in the groin or the armpit. He underwent treatment for a while, came out of it OK, went on to become a doctor. He missed the first year of college, but he used his experience to leap forward tremendously.
Good luck wolf, hang in there and be strong.
Good luck wolf, hang in there and be strong.
Quiksilver
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What city do you live in?
I just moved out here and need someone to teach me how to surf
I just moved out here and need someone to teach me how to surf
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
Best of luck Wolf.
Might not mean much, but I'm sure the whole community here is behind you.
Might not mean much, but I'm sure the whole community here is behind you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Wolf, five years from now this thread will be 500 pages long and more focused on your advice as a cancer survivor. But you have a lot of work to put in first. Good luck with everything.
Yeah I guess I don't really care about my deadlift now that I know how to use a gym, I can always start again.EFFORT said:
When I get through this it will be because of doctors saving my life. There's nothing I can really do except eat well and stay positive.
I sent you a PM Quiksilver.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
determination is your first weapon of defense.
telling yourself and believing that you will not let cancer take you, is something you need to do daily.
telling yourself, i will not have cancer for long, will spark more hope inside yourself than just being silent about it.
start a blog and get your feelings out.
you can do that on your myspace page.
don't stop being you just because you have an illness.
perhaps it will go into remission very soon.
we are all here rooting for you wolf. please continue to let us know how you are doing by updating your thread.
our family will pray for you to over come this.
telling yourself and believing that you will not let cancer take you, is something you need to do daily.
telling yourself, i will not have cancer for long, will spark more hope inside yourself than just being silent about it.
start a blog and get your feelings out.
you can do that on your myspace page.
don't stop being you just because you have an illness.
perhaps it will go into remission very soon.
we are all here rooting for you wolf. please continue to let us know how you are doing by updating your thread.
our family will pray for you to over come this.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
KontrollerX
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Damn sorry to hear that man.
Glad to hear that yours has a good chance of recovery though.
Keep up the fight brother.
We are all in your corner if only symbolically.
And yeah definitely keep us updated on your progress.
Glad to hear that yours has a good chance of recovery though.
Keep up the fight brother.
We are all in your corner if only symbolically.
And yeah definitely keep us updated on your progress.
PerfectCircle
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Hoping your whole experience is nothing more then a inconvenience. Best of luck at a fast and permanent recovery.
Remulak
Senior Don Juan
You will defeat this, I will keep you in my prayers. Please keep us updated and stay strong.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This really makes you want to live your life to the fullest. One day you can wake up and find out you have cancer, etc.
You sound like you're being very proactive about it which is great! Fight hard and you'll pull through man.
You sound like you're being very proactive about it which is great! Fight hard and you'll pull through man.
Mr.Positive
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I believe sometimes in life God calls upon us to fight for something. He sees strength, and tests it.
A lot of people go through life without much to fight for, but for those that get called upon...like you Wolf, you will discover a strength inside of you that nothing can take away.
When you beat this, you'll wake up each morning truly understanding, that today, is the first day of the rest of your life.
A lot of people go through life without much to fight for, but for those that get called upon...like you Wolf, you will discover a strength inside of you that nothing can take away.
When you beat this, you'll wake up each morning truly understanding, that today, is the first day of the rest of your life.
Thanks so much everyone for your support, I even got an email from Warboss Alex which made my day.
Thanks for letting me vent a little, I can't tell anyone in real life except mum, they will just treat you like you're dying and look at you strangely when you laugh.
I will keep everyone up to date.
Thanks for letting me vent a little, I can't tell anyone in real life except mum, they will just treat you like you're dying and look at you strangely when you laugh.
I will keep everyone up to date.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.