My Name is Nobody
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Changed your life with women?HOMBRE said:Actually, I've had other forums change my life. I can't speak for this one since I'm new.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Changed your life with women?HOMBRE said:Actually, I've had other forums change my life. I can't speak for this one since I'm new.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Absolutely with women..no doubt about that. With men too. But yeah, with women especially. I used to not like women much...kind of like most of you I'd guess.My Name is Nobody said:Changed your life with women?
HOMBRE said:Absolutely with women..no doubt about that. With men too. But yeah, with women especially. I used to not like women much...kind of like most of you I'd guess.
"Utilize" your love. Interesting way of putting it. So did you figure out how to "utilize" it? Your love I mean.My Name is Nobody said:I've always loved women, I just didn't know how to utilize my love.
Yeah I have learned that the way to utilize your love is NOT being an AFC.HOMBRE said:"Utilize" your love. Interesting way of putting it. So did you figure out how to "utilize" it? Your love I mean.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
We can certainly try, but at the end of it all, iqqi has to WANT to fix her problem... and that's even if she believes she has a problem.If we're going to interject ourselves into other people's lives why can't we step up and help iqqi with her problem?
Amen. I'm not talking about an intervention. If iqqi doesn't ask for help then none will be given.Desdinova said:We can certainly try, but at the end of it all, iqqi has to WANT to fix her problem... and that's even if she believes she has a problem.
You know how many times I was tempted to help out drunk AWs? Too many to count. I really felt bad for them, but what could I do? Give them a ride home so they could sleep it off? Let them puke in my truck?
It's really fukkin sad to see, but the person with the problem needs to want help. That's why our "mission" over at Loveshack was successful, it's full of people who want help.
Your mission was a complete and dismal failure.Desdinova said:We can certainly try, but at the end of it all, iqqi has to WANT to fix her problem... and that's even if she believes she has a problem.
You know how many times I was tempted to help out drunk AWs? Too many to count. I really felt bad for them, but what could I do? Give them a ride home so they could sleep it off? Let them puke in my truck?
It's really fukkin sad to see, but the person with the problem needs to want help. That's why our "mission" over at Loveshack was successful, it's full of people who want help.
This is the clarity I've come to expect from wise Brothers such as Zen.ZenGodMod said:We all shouldn't have reacted to, responded against or attached ourself to iqqi's statements, it just fueled her and entertained drama more then it helped anyone.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think Hombre might be a woman.HOMBRE said:Your mission was a complete and dismal failure.
What's an AW? And what's an AFC again? I can't keep up with all these retarded abbreviations, sorry.
Men, we should be celebrating our victory, not fighting amongst ourselves. We live to fight another day...KontrollerX said:If keto wishes to supplant me as KX he must face me in direct combat to the death!
*Watches Karma sound the battlehorn for the mideivel style duel*
LOL.
No sh!t. Try not to make it so obvious next time, HOMBRE.Charmed said:Hombre is a woman
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Abso-fvcking-lutely! With bagpipes and kilts with nothing underneath but sweaty sac and farts!Mr.Positive said:Men, we should be celebrating our victory, not fighting amongst ourselves. We live to fight another day...
We need a sosuave victory march...and yes, with bagpipes.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3Kk-sOojjE&feature=related
Advanced ss technology.KontrollerX said:Sosuave energy is the answer to the world energy crisis!
Damnit...I love being a man too!! I'm fired up right now, and I've got bagpipes blaring as I type this...you know, we ought to form the first sosuave pipes and drums band.KarmaSutra said:Abso-fvcking-lutely! With bagpipes and kilts with nothing underneath but sweaty sac and farts!
Hot damn I love being a man!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.