My Name is Nobody
Banned
- Joined
- Mar 12, 2007
- Messages
- 2,153
- Reaction score
- 13
Changed your life with women?HOMBRE said:Actually, I've had other forums change my life. I can't speak for this one since I'm new.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Changed your life with women?HOMBRE said:Actually, I've had other forums change my life. I can't speak for this one since I'm new.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Absolutely with women..no doubt about that. With men too. But yeah, with women especially. I used to not like women much...kind of like most of you I'd guess.My Name is Nobody said:Changed your life with women?
HOMBRE said:Absolutely with women..no doubt about that. With men too. But yeah, with women especially. I used to not like women much...kind of like most of you I'd guess.
"Utilize" your love. Interesting way of putting it. So did you figure out how to "utilize" it? Your love I mean.My Name is Nobody said:I've always loved women, I just didn't know how to utilize my love.
Yeah I have learned that the way to utilize your love is NOT being an AFC.HOMBRE said:"Utilize" your love. Interesting way of putting it. So did you figure out how to "utilize" it? Your love I mean.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
We can certainly try, but at the end of it all, iqqi has to WANT to fix her problem... and that's even if she believes she has a problem.If we're going to interject ourselves into other people's lives why can't we step up and help iqqi with her problem?
Amen. I'm not talking about an intervention. If iqqi doesn't ask for help then none will be given.Desdinova said:We can certainly try, but at the end of it all, iqqi has to WANT to fix her problem... and that's even if she believes she has a problem.
You know how many times I was tempted to help out drunk AWs? Too many to count. I really felt bad for them, but what could I do? Give them a ride home so they could sleep it off? Let them puke in my truck?
It's really fukkin sad to see, but the person with the problem needs to want help. That's why our "mission" over at Loveshack was successful, it's full of people who want help.
Your mission was a complete and dismal failure.Desdinova said:We can certainly try, but at the end of it all, iqqi has to WANT to fix her problem... and that's even if she believes she has a problem.
You know how many times I was tempted to help out drunk AWs? Too many to count. I really felt bad for them, but what could I do? Give them a ride home so they could sleep it off? Let them puke in my truck?
It's really fukkin sad to see, but the person with the problem needs to want help. That's why our "mission" over at Loveshack was successful, it's full of people who want help.
This is the clarity I've come to expect from wise Brothers such as Zen.ZenGodMod said:We all shouldn't have reacted to, responded against or attached ourself to iqqi's statements, it just fueled her and entertained drama more then it helped anyone.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think Hombre might be a woman.HOMBRE said:Your mission was a complete and dismal failure.
What's an AW? And what's an AFC again? I can't keep up with all these retarded abbreviations, sorry.
Men, we should be celebrating our victory, not fighting amongst ourselves. We live to fight another day...KontrollerX said:If keto wishes to supplant me as KX he must face me in direct combat to the death!
*Watches Karma sound the battlehorn for the mideivel style duel*
LOL.
No sh!t. Try not to make it so obvious next time, HOMBRE.Charmed said:Hombre is a woman
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Abso-fvcking-lutely! With bagpipes and kilts with nothing underneath but sweaty sac and farts!Mr.Positive said:Men, we should be celebrating our victory, not fighting amongst ourselves. We live to fight another day...
We need a sosuave victory march...and yes, with bagpipes.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3Kk-sOojjE&feature=related
Advanced ss technology.KontrollerX said:Sosuave energy is the answer to the world energy crisis!
Damnit...I love being a man too!! I'm fired up right now, and I've got bagpipes blaring as I type this...you know, we ought to form the first sosuave pipes and drums band.KarmaSutra said:Abso-fvcking-lutely! With bagpipes and kilts with nothing underneath but sweaty sac and farts!
Hot damn I love being a man!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.