So, i've been hanging out with this girl from a town 15 miles from my home. I met her first day of training on a new job, she was also a trainee. I was working up to ask her if she wanted to go to the festival and she said "if you're asking me to go then its a yes". The whole time we've been together she's always standing close to me, smiling, laughing, looking me in my eyes. I dont know if she is that way with everyone since she is naturally outgoing. The past two days we've went to her towns festival and sat at a picnic table and told eachother personal stories. She told me she has never told anyone "that" before only me. The next day we were in her car and she was showing me her favorite songs. She parked next to my car and she started singing to me, atleast 10 songs. She was beautiful. The whole time looking into my eyes and smiling while she was singing. The day before she told me she was single and told me about her ex and why she didn't like him anymore. She also took me shopping twice, "Accidentally shoulder bumping me". Should I move in or should I take it slow?? Or do you think she just wants to be friends?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How can I tell if a girl that is outgoing likes me?
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thank you very much ill take it in consideration! i think im gonna ask her to go somewhere just the 2 of us and im gonna go for it.
mrgoodstuff
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If she likes you enough she will be fvcking you. Pretty simple.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DelayedGratification
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This has been my classic mistake... not recognizing high interest level and acting on it. Based on your description, doesn't sound any more obvious to me...
lol not good advice
so you're saying you think shes totally into me?
SeekerOfTheWay
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That all seems way too much, too soon. I am going to say she isn’t into you but is a narcissist and love bombing you. Proceed with caution. Females don’t usually throw themselves that quickly into any man. Some of the phrases she used sound classically like a narcissist like bad mouthing the ex, singing to you, telling person stores right away.” She hasn’t known you long enough to be THAT into you so i see those behaviors as a red flag. No harm in seeing how it unfolds of course but be aware. “i have never told anyone else that before” is a line used to make you feel instantly special.
As a “disclaimer” i am female, older and have some experience with a narcissist. Just my opinions.
As a “disclaimer” i am female, older and have some experience with a narcissist. Just my opinions.
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mrgoodstuff
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Real advice though. Trying to puzzy foot around gets guys used.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
In 2019 you can tell if she really likes you because shed desire you inside of her. Ie: she will have sex to obtain your validation.
mrgoodstuff
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Imho there is nothing to look for. Its blatently obvious shes highly interested.
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Dude... logic much?
In case not: False Dichotomy Alert! I am only watching for interest level if I had interest level in them to begin with. Not mutually exclusive concepts in the least. Even then it would be to ascertain whether I would be wasting time, energy, and focus on a person who simply isn't into me.
The latter is basically one (*one*, not all) of the underpinnings of the concept of "Next!", no?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.