So, i've been hanging out with this girl from a town 15 miles from my home. I met her first day of training on a new job, she was also a trainee. I was working up to ask her if she wanted to go to the festival and she said "if you're asking me to go then its a yes". The whole time we've been together she's always standing close to me, smiling, laughing, looking me in my eyes. I dont know if she is that way with everyone since she is naturally outgoing. The past two days we've went to her towns festival and sat at a picnic table and told eachother personal stories. She told me she has never told anyone "that" before only me. The next day we were in her car and she was showing me her favorite songs. She parked next to my car and she started singing to me, atleast 10 songs. She was beautiful. The whole time looking into my eyes and smiling while she was singing. The day before she told me she was single and told me about her ex and why she didn't like him anymore. She also took me shopping twice, "Accidentally shoulder bumping me". Should I move in or should I take it slow?? Or do you think she just wants to be friends?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How can I tell if a girl that is outgoing likes me?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
thank you very much ill take it in consideration! i think im gonna ask her to go somewhere just the 2 of us and im gonna go for it.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
If she likes you enough she will be fvcking you. Pretty simple.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DelayedGratification
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This has been my classic mistake... not recognizing high interest level and acting on it. Based on your description, doesn't sound any more obvious to me...
lol not good advice
so you're saying you think shes totally into me?
SeekerOfTheWay
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That all seems way too much, too soon. I am going to say she isn’t into you but is a narcissist and love bombing you. Proceed with caution. Females don’t usually throw themselves that quickly into any man. Some of the phrases she used sound classically like a narcissist like bad mouthing the ex, singing to you, telling person stores right away.” She hasn’t known you long enough to be THAT into you so i see those behaviors as a red flag. No harm in seeing how it unfolds of course but be aware. “i have never told anyone else that before” is a line used to make you feel instantly special.
As a “disclaimer” i am female, older and have some experience with a narcissist. Just my opinions.
As a “disclaimer” i am female, older and have some experience with a narcissist. Just my opinions.
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mrgoodstuff
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Real advice though. Trying to puzzy foot around gets guys used.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
In 2019 you can tell if she really likes you because shed desire you inside of her. Ie: she will have sex to obtain your validation.
mrgoodstuff
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Imho there is nothing to look for. Its blatently obvious shes highly interested.
DelayedGratification
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Dude... logic much?
In case not: False Dichotomy Alert! I am only watching for interest level if I had interest level in them to begin with. Not mutually exclusive concepts in the least. Even then it would be to ascertain whether I would be wasting time, energy, and focus on a person who simply isn't into me.
The latter is basically one (*one*, not all) of the underpinnings of the concept of "Next!", no?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.