"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How can I stop not being able to enjoy anything?

nelysses

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I have opened a few girl posts before but the problem is much different this time.

I have been masturbating too much for years and I am fixing it. I do sports, focus on my studies etc.

But I can't enjoy anything anymore for some reason I never know. That's why I even sleep 12 hours a day.

I used to be antisocial and loved home. Now nothing gives me pleasure when I am at home. If I go out, I have a few friends. I even started to feel jealous of my friends and other people. I meet my friends and I start to get bored before 1 hour.

They go to clubs (I didn't like them since I was little and my family doesn't like them because they are conservative. I live with them because I am still a student. There is no club in my city and I don't want to go to another city to go to a club.) But I don't enjoy it.

We do something else etc. but at the end of the day I have become someone who can't tolerate anything and can't enjoy it.

I already had OCD. I think depression could be added to this but I honestly don't want to get diagnosed and use medication.

I know you are not a psychologist, but what do you think I can do?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Free_Agent

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Focus on school, education, fitness and finances and **** all the other nonsense.

You're at literally the least stressful point of your life. It will only get more challenging.
 

Travel memoir21

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Please by all means stop masturbating, that will make you more depress. You said you practice to Islam, turn to your faith to rejuvinate you in your times of need. Stop being so self absorbed and go out and help someone whose less fortunate than you, be less absorbed in your problems and turn to gratitude and peace of mind through God or love consciousness and practicing moderation and self discipline/ delayed gratification in your life.
 

Plinco

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I have opened a few girl posts before but the problem is much different this time.

I have been masturbating too much for years and I am fixing it. I do sports, focus on my studies etc.

But I can't enjoy anything anymore for some reason I never know. That's why I even sleep 12 hours a day.

I used to be antisocial and loved home. Now nothing gives me pleasure when I am at home. If I go out, I have a few friends. I even started to feel jealous of my friends and other people. I meet my friends and I start to get bored before 1 hour.

They go to clubs (I didn't like them since I was little and my family doesn't like them because they are conservative. I live with them because I am still a student. There is no club in my city and I don't want to go to another city to go to a club.) But I don't enjoy it.

We do something else etc. but at the end of the day I have become someone who can't tolerate anything and can't enjoy it.

I already had OCD. I think depression could be added to this but I honestly don't want to get diagnosed and use medication.

I know you are not a psychologist, but what do you think I can do?
You're whim worshiping. Cut down on the screen time, spend time out in nature, write a journal every day and go figure out who you are.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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