"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How can I stop not being able to enjoy anything?

nelysses

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I have opened a few girl posts before but the problem is much different this time.

I have been masturbating too much for years and I am fixing it. I do sports, focus on my studies etc.

But I can't enjoy anything anymore for some reason I never know. That's why I even sleep 12 hours a day.

I used to be antisocial and loved home. Now nothing gives me pleasure when I am at home. If I go out, I have a few friends. I even started to feel jealous of my friends and other people. I meet my friends and I start to get bored before 1 hour.

They go to clubs (I didn't like them since I was little and my family doesn't like them because they are conservative. I live with them because I am still a student. There is no club in my city and I don't want to go to another city to go to a club.) But I don't enjoy it.

We do something else etc. but at the end of the day I have become someone who can't tolerate anything and can't enjoy it.

I already had OCD. I think depression could be added to this but I honestly don't want to get diagnosed and use medication.

I know you are not a psychologist, but what do you think I can do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Focus on school, education, fitness and finances and **** all the other nonsense.

You're at literally the least stressful point of your life. It will only get more challenging.
 

Travel memoir21

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Please by all means stop masturbating, that will make you more depress. You said you practice to Islam, turn to your faith to rejuvinate you in your times of need. Stop being so self absorbed and go out and help someone whose less fortunate than you, be less absorbed in your problems and turn to gratitude and peace of mind through God or love consciousness and practicing moderation and self discipline/ delayed gratification in your life.
 

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I have opened a few girl posts before but the problem is much different this time.

I have been masturbating too much for years and I am fixing it. I do sports, focus on my studies etc.

But I can't enjoy anything anymore for some reason I never know. That's why I even sleep 12 hours a day.

I used to be antisocial and loved home. Now nothing gives me pleasure when I am at home. If I go out, I have a few friends. I even started to feel jealous of my friends and other people. I meet my friends and I start to get bored before 1 hour.

They go to clubs (I didn't like them since I was little and my family doesn't like them because they are conservative. I live with them because I am still a student. There is no club in my city and I don't want to go to another city to go to a club.) But I don't enjoy it.

We do something else etc. but at the end of the day I have become someone who can't tolerate anything and can't enjoy it.

I already had OCD. I think depression could be added to this but I honestly don't want to get diagnosed and use medication.

I know you are not a psychologist, but what do you think I can do?
You're whim worshiping. Cut down on the screen time, spend time out in nature, write a journal every day and go figure out who you are.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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