"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How can I stop not being able to enjoy anything?

nelysses

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I have opened a few girl posts before but the problem is much different this time.

I have been masturbating too much for years and I am fixing it. I do sports, focus on my studies etc.

But I can't enjoy anything anymore for some reason I never know. That's why I even sleep 12 hours a day.

I used to be antisocial and loved home. Now nothing gives me pleasure when I am at home. If I go out, I have a few friends. I even started to feel jealous of my friends and other people. I meet my friends and I start to get bored before 1 hour.

They go to clubs (I didn't like them since I was little and my family doesn't like them because they are conservative. I live with them because I am still a student. There is no club in my city and I don't want to go to another city to go to a club.) But I don't enjoy it.

We do something else etc. but at the end of the day I have become someone who can't tolerate anything and can't enjoy it.

I already had OCD. I think depression could be added to this but I honestly don't want to get diagnosed and use medication.

I know you are not a psychologist, but what do you think I can do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Free_Agent

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Focus on school, education, fitness and finances and **** all the other nonsense.

You're at literally the least stressful point of your life. It will only get more challenging.
 

Travel memoir21

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Please by all means stop masturbating, that will make you more depress. You said you practice to Islam, turn to your faith to rejuvinate you in your times of need. Stop being so self absorbed and go out and help someone whose less fortunate than you, be less absorbed in your problems and turn to gratitude and peace of mind through God or love consciousness and practicing moderation and self discipline/ delayed gratification in your life.
 

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I have opened a few girl posts before but the problem is much different this time.

I have been masturbating too much for years and I am fixing it. I do sports, focus on my studies etc.

But I can't enjoy anything anymore for some reason I never know. That's why I even sleep 12 hours a day.

I used to be antisocial and loved home. Now nothing gives me pleasure when I am at home. If I go out, I have a few friends. I even started to feel jealous of my friends and other people. I meet my friends and I start to get bored before 1 hour.

They go to clubs (I didn't like them since I was little and my family doesn't like them because they are conservative. I live with them because I am still a student. There is no club in my city and I don't want to go to another city to go to a club.) But I don't enjoy it.

We do something else etc. but at the end of the day I have become someone who can't tolerate anything and can't enjoy it.

I already had OCD. I think depression could be added to this but I honestly don't want to get diagnosed and use medication.

I know you are not a psychologist, but what do you think I can do?
You're whim worshiping. Cut down on the screen time, spend time out in nature, write a journal every day and go figure out who you are.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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